I feel for you wow thats awful

I moved out of the small town where we
Lived. It was the best thing i could Have
done. His relatives all live there, i still go
Back once in awhile thats it.

I live where the stores are, so i see
Everybody just not him and his family.

(((( hugs))))

Oh I feel your pain, mine moved back last summer and them got married.

I saw the wife at hair dresser, I felt awkward the entire time but never even acknowledged she was there.

I don't not have contact with the kids father anymore, other than sending receipts and requests by email. He responds that way too

Oh my goodness. I'm so sorry. My x lived in the same town, moved away and then came back but it is a big town and just a couple of times saw him at the gas station. I did now acknowledge. But still, you are always trying to be prepared for when you might run into them.

Oh that's hard. I'll keep you in my prayers. You might have to pick a regular shopping time when they're at work?

I live in a medium sized town and have been fortunate not to run into the ex or the ow very often. However, when I do, I just hold my chin up and fake the big happy smile, say hello but don't hang around for chat.

Your goal is to feel good about yourself after any encounter, so practice being in control, rehearse how you might say hello with that big 'genuine' smile, and decide that you will always take the higher ground. Do what you have to do to be prepared, then forget about them and carry on with your own life.

Remember that he is no longer a part of your life. You have a new life now - one that is free from conflict and the misery you experienced when you were with him and what he did.

Don't let his presence influence your peace of mind. He is not important any more.

love and hugs
kamary

My goodness, you wouldn't have been able to shake this guy off even if you had dumped hot coals in his shoe!!!! The games ex's will play! It's funny but I'm not laughing at you, not one bit. But I gotta hand to your ex for his tenuousness for hanging in there to make sure he get to rub your nose in the crap.

As in a little humor, it might be a good time to hire a YOUNGER and sexy male escort to be seen around town.....just because you know people talk ! Live a little!

You are in my prayers. I know exactly how that feels! I live in a teeny tiny little place and my ex has left and come back twice!! He had the nerve to drag the OW to my neighbors house and hung around out in the yard! He was always popping up at the post office or the little store we have. I am so sad you have to go through this. And dammit if every time I try to sneak out to one of these places without make up or in my paint clothes, there he is!!! Well, not always, but the threat of it is enough to keep me on edge and constantly scanning the area like a bloody secret service agent!! LOL!
But honestly, it does get easier overtime and I just tell myself that it has to be just as awkward for her. I mean you had how many years together with him and those good years are still there. Divorce can't take all that away. When you do run into them just remind yourself she's sporting YOUR hand me down!! good luck and chin up! ((hugs!))

So sorry to hear this. I hope you're able to find it in you to keep your head up, stay on the high road, and keep on with your life.

I'm not advising or saying you're wrong, but it pisses me off to think you feel you can't go to YOUR church anymore because his parents are there. You didn't do this, he did. You have no call to run or hide, the shame doesn't belong to you, and liars know what they told. Liars know what they did. Denial is powerful, but it takes a great deal of energy to stay there, more than admitting and making amends for what they've done. I would probably be going to church more often just to say "I'm here, and I didn't do anything wrong, no matter what trash you spew." But that's me.

I hope the benefits for your children outweigh the ewww factor of having the new couple back in town. Best wishes for strength and grace.

My friend, my favourite thing when I do see him and that is very rare, I smile, turn around and walk away. You do not owe him anything. Hold your head up high. As for going to church, I stopped going years ago. Not that I do not believe in God, I do. They are the ones that have a lot to answer for. I would not want to be in their shoes. Think of this, they will never trust and really respect each other. There is always that doubt at the back of their mind, where are they, why are they late? Or even if they are in the same room and they are laughing with someone else that doubt will be there. The uneasiness they will feel when they walk into a room, knowing what they did and that everyone knows it too. Hugs my friend. You will be fine.

That can't be easy! I would HATE to see them together on a regular basis, but I bet you will become numb to it after the first few agonizing times. At least I hope so. I find that exposure to anything hurtful or shocking wears off with time.

Continue to live a good life and try not to let them change your own routines or happiness (any more than they already did!)

Social media told me my ex and his newest GF were at one of my favorite friendly neighborhood bars last weekend. I was PISSEDl. I don't own the place, but I want to feel comfortable going there that I won't see them. He's an alcoholic and has a large range of drinking establishments he hangs out in. I texted him and asked him to stay out of that one. I was dead serious.

It will get easier with those hated words more time. I have to admit that there have been a few moments when I see someone that resembles the ex. I have to remind myself that he is no where near the town I live in. I had so much contact with the ex for almost six years until this farm was deeded over to me that I'm almost not worried about seeing him. I do know he bought a house in TN and he's cut our daughter out of his life. So he is now forever out of my life.

This is one of those things that you really can't do much about. He could have stayed out of your area but he didn't so you will learn to deal with it. I don't know why they can't just stay away and make their own lives in a different town. Cmonge is right about becoming numb after dealing with an ex the first few times. I'm sorry you are having to learn how to deal with your ex living in your area. It has to be hard to adjust to the thought that you might see him at any time..

As someone who couldn't WAIT to move away after the mess started to settle out, I sure do understand.

I had to wait until my son finished his senior year at school, and then I got out of there as fast as I could. The house was sold and I had a heck of a time finding a nice rental that would let me go month by month as I only wanted 7 months so that I could leave at asap! My town was a big one and he and his then gf (he married her one year after I moved away) only worked there, they lived a 30 mte drive away, but it still made me uneasy.

The idea of running into him/her made me sick and I thought, why put myself through that? I left a few really close friends behind, and I still miss them, but it was the right choice. I'm guessing you don't have an option to leave if you have a child who is settled in school there.

Follow some of the advice already given; avoid them as best you can, and shop either somewhere else or at a time when you at least think they won't be around. Maybe when they're at church where they SHOULD be praying for forgiveness . Not likely though ;) Hang in there sister. Plan your escape and leave them to eat your dust asap is my advice. Worked great for me! hugs

You guys are GREAT!!! They claim to be broke all the time.... to the point that my children will not even give them a Christmas list... but can afford to pay half again in rent what my mortgage is, take off from work to enjoy a weekend get-away (on his weekend to see our boys)..... Just screwed up!!!

I hold my head up high.... I did not walk away from my marriage covenant.. I tried.. but God does not expect His children to stay in situations with manipulative and emotionally abusive people. I love the people in my old church but my ex in-laws are there every time the doors are open. For them it is about the appearances which is why their son would not attend church with me and our children except for rare occasions. I keep in touch with those I care about. I believe someone said that divorce is soul sucking! Perfect phrase for this situation!!!!
As for the ex and his mistress turned insecure wife, I will smile and nod when I have to see them in public.... and keep you guys posted!!!!