I don't know I am wondering the same thing Im in my earlier 50"s. I will keep checking back to see what anyone would say......

I did find a place where the 50-year-old men tend to hang out and it's early morning in Starbuck's! They are all there behind their newspapers and their computers, lol.

My divorce was final just a few weeks before my 54th birthday (2007) Six months later, I met a wonderful man on eHarmony. That blossomed into a relationship which lasted 5-1/2 years. I can see now where it was a "transitional relationship" for me.

I met a fellow down here in Naples back in January. We see each other sometimes a lot and sometimes not so much. Not sure where it's going -- if anywhere -- but it's ok. There are lots of single men my age down here. Who knows? One of them could be THE ONE but if not, that's ok, too. I'm not planning on getting married again and I'm perfectly ok by myself.

By the way, I am 61 -- one of the younger retirees around here!

I'm 63 and started going out with someone about a year and a half after my divorce. I've been divorced three years. He is someone I met through work and actually knew him prior to my divorce but there was no interest at that time. It was/is a long distance relationship which was further complicated by both of us almost simultaneously losing our long term jobs/careers the beginning of last year shortly after we began seeing each other. We are both still in the process of transitioning or reinventing ourselves and the relationship has been up, down, in and out and every which way but we continue to be in touch and support each other. I'm ready to leave where I live and the last time I talked to him we were both discussing the same town. So, who knows. I still have a lot of work to do on myself with adjusting to the current curve balls life has thrown at me. I would love to have someone in my life and I really like this man but I know I need to be whole on my own.

You gals are great. I'm 47 & don't see much if any hope for future relationships. I hope you all find peace & happiness :)

I'm close to wanting to mingle, I have looked at online sights and I find it somewhat discouraging, it seems that you've got to package yourself and have a hook or you don't get the 15 seconds of fame,

I need to work on mine before I go online, so far I've got

"Scars & baggage, not looking to add any to yours"

That is a bit of a haha but in the profiles online people claim to have it all together,
I don't, I won't, I'm looking to pull myself together, I won't pull someone else apart, and I looking to pull someone through if they are honest with me about their scars and baggage.

Trust will be a major issue for me, so regardless of the circumstance / justification no, that's zero zilch nada none cheaters

After 27, you don't see "much if any hope" at the tender age of 47? Come on girl!!!! It's there if you want it...you can at least try before you give up!

I'm dating someone who I've been with for over a year. I met him online (match.com) and he'd been dating on and off for several years (he was over five years post separation when we met).

He SAYS that he fell in love with me almost immediately, which I suspected before he actually said it, and I found it very overwhelming to have a man tell me that he loves me! I just wanted to date, and wasn't thinking, drum roll please......LOVE (gasp!). I'm okay with it now, and comfortable to be able to tell him that I love him too! It took me a little longer to get there is all....

Just goes to show that when you put yourself out there, ya never know what you might find! Some folks are afraid that they WON'T find anyone, but it can be just as scary or maybe more so to find someone and fall in love again!

We've been taking it slow. After a while things sorta speeded up abit, and then got a bit rocky. We've had a few minor issues and one serious "break"(earlier this summer and initiated by me) but I have a good feeling things will work out for us. Time will tell. Either way....I'm okay with it. Somehow I fell like no man, no relationship, can ever hurt me the way I was hurt by the ex. That may or may not be true, but I just feel that way!

The thing is, as happy as I am to have someone in my life....it's NOT the most important part of my life! Maybe I'm jaded, or just still a little raw, but sometimes I feel like I'll never be fully able to 'jump in' for lack of a better phrase with all of my heart and soul. Maybe divorce changed me. I truly don't know. I may never know.

BTW, I turned 50 earlier this year. I was 47 when I separated after 30 years (23 married, 7 dating) together.

I am 55 yrs old now. Four yrs ago my ex left me for another woman and like you I too was nervous about meeting someone else. I knew i would have trust issues and that i would even probably compare the ex to the new man. Its not easy but its possible. Today i have remarried. I am happy and love my husband. I knew him years ago so he is not a stranger. He too went through the same experience i went thru with his ex wife and today we have learned from our past mistakes and together have built a stronger marriage and better communication. Take your time. Only you will know when you are ready. I wasnt looking for another relationship trust me. I actually thought i could never love again but here i am

Here are my "recent" thoughts on this subject. I'm 46 and early on in this was certain that I would never want another man as long as I lived. God forbid I pick up someone elses sloppy second with baggage.

Then I slowly began to see that some of those guys are just like me. They were the wounded ones. Their baggage was not of their own doing. So I began to adjust my thinking to see that a new relationships could do us both good. We could learn from our first relationship and make the new one better because of it.

So I am no longer afraid of a new man entering my life. But I know I will be VERY choosey and particular in what I will accept and expect. I will also be a very different woman this time around. I'm actually starting to look forward to it.

For now, while I really want to date and connect with other guys.....i'm not sure I'm ready. I don't want to deal with the whole rebound thing. I don't want one night stands or empty sexual relationships. I want substance.....that's what was missing the first time around. I wont make that mistake twice.

PsiChi,
You took the words right out of my mouth :) I have decided to wait before dating because I have recently backslided and need more healing time. I also do NOT want a rebound relationship.
I'm still taking a class about becoming an authentic person and realizing what makes us who we are - from our childhood and after. That is helping me figure out so much. Good luck with your plans for the future.

I'm too afraid of getting into the same situation to even let a man get within arm's length. Sorry I'm not much help to you, goldengirl.

love and hugs
kamary

Ok so I'm with you girl. I am 59 and turn 60 in January. I want the companionship of a good man but have many scars from my 29 yr marriage. So trust is issue. Prefer not to do on-line thing. But unless I meet him at walmart, grocery store or work (which narrows possibilities as I only work 2 days a week) then it may not happen. But not giving up!!

Just think of it this way 50's the new 40... Get out there girl and strut your stuff :)