Divorce after Twenty years together Community Group
I want to start something for those of us that were married for a long long time. I think that we face a little different issues than those who were dating for a few years or even married for shorter period of time. Being married for so long we have older children some have grandkids dealing with teenagers and their reaction to the divorice empty nesters dating after 40...
On 01/05/12, 03:22pm disneymom65 wrote:
Good Morning,
I have managed to save for Disney and save for a home and managed to get Austin and I medical and dental insurance. Funny how he always said that I was the one with money problems. I have learned to realize that it took me 23 years to create all this mess it's going to take awhile to come out of it. There is no magic wand or special potion I can take to make it all go away. I'm working with a credit repair company to rebuild my credit and finances. I'm still going to counseling to help with my emotional issues and going to church to help with my spiritual side as well. Nothing is going to just happen over night and I have learned to give myself more credit for what I have accomplished. PP on the other hand has lost the business all together, still owes the IRS thousands in back taxes, has not made any payments through the clearning house which is bsck dated since June, oh and his truck broke down and called my brother in law to tow him. Still though he has not admitted that he made a bad choice, that he did anything wrong and that everything is fine with the kids even though they won't even speak with him.
I know the places I went wrong in my marriage and am working real hard not to ever let them happen again. I have learned not to settle for 2nd best because I know I deserve more. My self worth is slowly coming back and I am realizing just how AWESOME I am. He never deserved someone as great as me. I was super wife and super mom still am he just never saw it because he couldn't see past himself. The trip to Disney will be from Feb 20th - Feb 27th and the trip is my Victory Dance!!!!!!! A place of happiness and Joy and Renewal that there is a bright light shining on me and I can do it. None of us are our circumstances bad things happen to us that our out of our control. How we choose to deal with them is in our control. We can chose to hide away and die because of it or we can FIGHT TO LIVE AGAIN AND GET IT ALL BACK. And girlfriend I CHOSE TO FIGHT!!!!!! He is not going to be the end of my story. Even though my life is moving pretty fast at this point I still want you to know how much you mean to me and I would have NEVER made it this far without you. I think of all of you often and Pray to God and thank him for sending you my way when I needed you the most. YOU ARE MY ANGEL, MY FAIRY GODMOTHER, AND MY FRIEND..................
LOVE YOU SWEETIE,
T
This was a message I sent to my Fairy God Mother Cowgirl Kathi this morning. I miss all of you and wanted you to know that DISNEYMOM is still here and ROCKIN HER WORLD!!!! I hope my friends I have known for awhile are doing better. I pray that time as started to heal your wounds and light has replaced the dark places. For those of you who are new Stay Strong and NEVER GIVE UP FAITH IN GOD AND BELIEF IN YOURSELF. Just about a year ago my world fell apart when my H came home pack up and drove away after 23 years of marriage. I only worked part time we had a daughter in college and a 10 yr old son. Didn't matter he wanted to be FREE AND VOID OF ANY RESPONSIBILITY. Please know that you are never alone and listen to some of us that have been here for awhile IT DOES GET BETTER WE HAVE ALL BEEN WHERE YOU ARE NOW. I was a complete mess had to leave my home, lost my cars, sell my furniture, washer and dryer, refridge ect..... But i'm living proof that life goes on and it's SO MUCH BETTER AND SWEETER THAN EVER!!!!!
Hang on tight the road is bumpy with turns, mis steps, and ups and downs but the storm turns to calm waters sooner than you think.
DisneyMom
Good Morning,
I have managed to save for Disney and save for a home and managed to get Austin and I medical and dental insurance. Funny how he always said that I was the one with money problems. I have learned to realize that it took me 23 years to create all this mess it's going to take awhile to come out of it. There is no magic wand or special potion I can take to make it all go away. I'm working with a credit repair company to rebuild my credit and finances. I'm still going to counseling to help with my emotional issues and going to church to help with my spiritual side as well. Nothing is going to just happen over night and I have learned to give myself more credit for what I have accomplished. PP on the other hand has lost the business all together, still owes the IRS thousands in back taxes, has not made any payments through the clearning house which is bsck dated since June, oh and his truck broke down and called my brother in law to tow him. Still though he has not admitted that he made a bad choice, that he did anything wrong and that everything is fine with the kids even though they won't even speak with him.
I know the places I went wrong in my marriage and am working real hard not to ever let them happen again. I have learned not to settle for 2nd best because I know I deserve more. My self worth is slowly coming back and I am realizing just how AWESOME I am. He never deserved someone as great as me. I was super wife and super mom still am he just never saw it because he couldn't see past himself. The trip to Disney will be from Feb 20th - Feb 27th and the trip is my Victory Dance!!!!!!! A place of happiness and Joy and Renewal that there is a bright light shining on me and I can do it. None of us are our circumstances bad things happen to us that our out of our control. How we choose to deal with them is in our control. We can chose to hide away and die because of it or we can FIGHT TO LIVE AGAIN AND GET IT ALL BACK. And girlfriend I CHOSE TO FIGHT!!!!!! He is not going to be the end of my story. Even though my life is moving pretty fast at this point I still want you to know how much you mean to me and I would have NEVER made it this far without you. I think of all of you often and Pray to God and thank him for sending you my way when I needed you the most. YOU ARE MY ANGEL, MY FAIRY GODMOTHER, AND MY FRIEND..................
LOVE YOU SWEETIE,
T
This was a message I sent to my Fairy God Mother Cowgirl Kathi this morning. I miss all of you and wanted you to know that DISNEYMOM is still here and ROCKIN HER WORLD!!!! I hope my friends I have known for awhile are doing better. I pray that time as started to heal your wounds and light has replaced the dark places. For those of you who are new Stay Strong and NEVER GIVE UP FAITH IN GOD AND BELIEF IN YOURSELF. Just about a year ago my world fell apart when my H came home pack up and drove away after 23 years of marriage. I only worked part time we had a daughter in college and a 10 yr old son. Didn't matter he wanted to be FREE AND VOID OF ANY RESPONSIBILITY. Please know that you are never alone and listen to some of us that have been here for awhile IT DOES GET BETTER WE HAVE ALL BEEN WHERE YOU ARE NOW. I was a complete mess had to leave my home, lost my cars, sell my furniture, washer and dryer, refridge ect..... But i'm living proof that life goes on and it's SO MUCH BETTER AND SWEETER THAN EVER!!!!!
Hang on tight the road is bumpy with turns, mis steps, and ups and downs but the storm turns to calm waters sooner than you think.
DisneyMom
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You've have come so far! This is a great post to show all the newbies that there is a good life after divorce.
You go, girl. Big hugs!
you are proof that a good attitude can take you far and is THE catalyst for recovery. Thanks for the post!
DisneyMom
I haven't been here long and I'm 2 years out from the divorce but was having trouble moving on. Finding this site has helped me come to terms with the type of person my ex is and who I am also, so that I have a better understanding of what happened. And so a better grip on what to do to move on without looking back.
Thank you to all :)
I am BLUSHING from all the accolades this morning, but I want you all to know that I do not deserve all this credit -- our Heavenly Father does -- because it is through Him that I found the strength within myself to do what I had to do. All I do here is share the wisdom of my experience with a healthy dose of Cowgirl chutzpa thrown in!
But thank you all, nevertheless. Your words have reaffirmed the value of my continued presence here. Thanks and may you all continue to be blessed in your New Lives! xoxoxo
THERE IS A LIFE AFTER DIVORCE AND A PRETTY DANG GOOD ONE TO BOOT!