Don't fall for it. Run in the opposite direction! Your family is you and your kids. You don't need anything from her. She can only hurt you, not help you. Don't speak to her!

RUN!!! You deserve SO MUCH BETTER!!

Hugs...PROUD of you!!!!!!!!!!!!!

No there isn't one, mate. It's natural that she would miss family. The leavers do go through the grief process, too, but I'm afraid you'd just be setting yourself up for another let-down if you took her back -- especially (BIG RED FLAG) as she says "it doesn't have to be where we get married" What!!!? Also, why talk to the kids first? No if she was fair dinkum, she wouldn't be talking to the kids and talking about not actually being married.

Hang onto your self-respect and integrity and let her down gently.

love and hugs
kamary

I’m going to be crass, simply because it pisses me off that your ex, is dragging your children into all of this bull$hit. For her to even indicate to your son that she wants to get back together with you is creating in his head “hope”. Shame on her – she’s a piece of shit as far as I’m concerned. How many children from broken homes dream of the family life that they had prior to the betrayal? ALL OF THEM. What child doesn’t want that happy whole family?

Now, if you don’t meet with her, your poor kid may think that there was a chance and YOU didn’t want it!

Please, sit your son down and explain to him gently what you are feeling so there is no question of why you are turning down your ex’s ridiculous offer. So many people have gone back time and time again, only to have it fall apart again and the feelings your feeling right now become tenfold. Just ask the ladies here – Dairy’s one of them – she’d be a great one to ask.

Respect yourself enough, to know when to quit. Your ex is obviously messed up in the head – you don’t need her at all and you must know you can do this. If I knew her, I’d probably punch her right in the face for getting the kid involved with something he shouldn’t be - no matter how old he is. She’s a piece of work.

I say find something to do on Saturday so you are not anywhere around where she can reach you. I agree with the others, she is using you. The only one who can stop all this is you. JUST SAY NO!

You will be living in " déjà vu" if you agree and allow yourself to repeat the same mistake of scheduling another meet up with the ex . Let's not forget the "protective order" she initated against you but yet she wants to talk [what?] Who gives a shit what she wants and you're taking notice of it. Tell her to talk to her friend the "protective order". Stop your victim role and tell her YOU will enforce her friend " the protective order " to keep her AWAY!

My ex and his ow had several breakups while they were seeing each other and have had several more since marrying. It's not uncommon for the cheater to want to go to the "fall back" plan (YOU) until she reconciles with the om or moves on to someone else. You deserve better.

Keep moving forward without her. She made her choice, now let her live with it.

Thanks everybody for confirming what I already knew in my heart. I know I don't want to go back to the lying and cheating and always wondering what's going on in her mind. I have come a long way but realize I've got alot further to go. I sure don't want to start all this over again.