Divorce after Twenty years together Community Group

I want to start something for those of us that were married for a long long time. I think that we face a little different issues than those who were dating for a few years or even married for shorter period of time. Being married for so long we have older children some have grandkids dealing with teenagers and their reaction to the divorice empty nesters dating after 40...

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Dear Ex

cantstay2
cantstay2
Although I might be sad at times, get lonely or angry at times...i look back on the memories shattered by your infidelity and hatred and awful words and you really SUCKED as a husband. I will get through this but you will still be who you are!

That is all.
kamary
kamary
Well said!
hurtinandhealin2560
hurtinandhealin2560
Ditto--mine sucked as a husband too.
cantstay2
cantstay2
I wasn't perfect by any means...but DAMN!!! sorry, today is obviously a bad day for me
trisha9054
trisha9054
I think you said what you wanted very politely. AT this point I don't think I would be so nice. I'm almost 6 years post divorce and he's only getting worse with his vindictive stunts.

You are so right; they don't change who they are.
Atpeacemary
Atpeacemary
You, my dear should have gotten an Oscar for that performance.. I would have used words that I am sure are not allowed on this site. In fact I did. ehehehe. 3 yrs later he is still the same but more miserable than ever.
cantstay2
cantstay2
sorry I don't remember everyone's real names.

Knuckle - thank you. I will pick up my trophy to the right! That sorry SOB can kiss my grits from here to the rest of eternity! He continues to seek out unhealthy relationships and I have no idea why I let that get to me???? it gets to me in an angry way though, like "why do women fall for it?" well, he appears to have money but doesn't. Oh the things I could tell but don't.
Lori63
Lori63
Amen!!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
AWESOME!!!! THAT'S ACTUALLY HELPED ME TODAY. THANKS FOR POSTING.
sfsoccermom
sfsoccermom
Well said! He will always be who he is.
momto22001
momto22001
Amen !!
KRKing911
KRKing911
Atta girl!!!
Atpeacemary
Atpeacemary
hold that head up high. He has nothing of value that you need or want. You have everything. hugs
mbstone
mbstone
Amen to that! Needed that myself tonight. Praying there is men who give a damn out there for women who believe in monogamy. Stay strong!
Misred
Misred
Dear EX, I don't think of you anymore....ever. You are a speck in my rear-view mirror.
cantstay2
cantstay2
Misred - I have more of those days lately! Can't wait until there are even MORE days I don't think of him
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