My ex was in such a hurry to start her new life with her new man, that she just wanted a non contested divorce. So we agreed on everything, I actually came out of it fairly well financially, because she was in such a mixed up state of mind. She left me Sept. 13 on my birthday and on Nov. 6 the divorce was final. It all happened so fast, I begged her to to wait just to see if her feelings changed, but she wouldn't listen. I don't know if it all happening so fast made things easier or worse. I think back now and know she did all she could to hurt me, Who would do such a thing on someones birthday? I know I can never take her back even if she wanted to, there would be no trust. But I can't get her out of my mind. Everytime I think I've made progress with it I take a step back. And I feel so much anger at the guy she left me for, I guess maybe it's a man thing but I feel like he disrespected me and my family. I would love to get ahold of him and take out all the anger I feel on him. But I know this would only make matters worse. I just want so bad to move on from this and be happy! I got the house in the divorce, I'm thinking about selling it and moving to a nearby town. There are so many memories in this house and the town I'm in now. I know they say to wait a year to make a big decision but i feel like this is something I need to do to move on.