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when I met my husband, I weighed more than he did. he was 6'2" 175 lbs. and I was 5'9" 195 lbs. I have lymphedema and a large frame and carry more weight in my left leg than a typical person, so I look pretty svelte at 195. Anyway, I always liked that he was skinny.
For years my weight kept ballooning, but I could usually keep it under 250 lbs. but I had an upsetting, bizarre weight gain in 2009 and my weight was very scary at almost 400 lbs. in 2010. I got treatment for my lymphedema and multiple surgeries for my horrible varicose veins and started biking every day and now I weigh about 220 lbs. and I am still losing weight.
He now weighs about 235 lbs. For the first time, I weigh less than he does. I am worried about him. He is asthmatic with high blood pressure, all his weight seems to be in his belly, and he is limping with joint pain (joint issues run in his family). He won't go on Herbalife with me because of the cost and I can't get him to exercise.
I know society would think it was weird that a wife with a higher BMI than her husband is worried about HIS weight. I feel shallow, but he's started shaving his head and wearing glasses and it's hard to get used to all the changes. he is still really handsome. I am really worried about his health though and think his doctor has him on too many medications, but he won't listen to me. he is interested in a martial arts class, so I am hopeful, but it's funny that it's around the same cost as herbalife, which "is too expensive"
For years my weight kept ballooning, but I could usually keep it under 250 lbs. but I had an upsetting, bizarre weight gain in 2009 and my weight was very scary at almost 400 lbs. in 2010. I got treatment for my lymphedema and multiple surgeries for my horrible varicose veins and started biking every day and now I weigh about 220 lbs. and I am still losing weight.
He now weighs about 235 lbs. For the first time, I weigh less than he does. I am worried about him. He is asthmatic with high blood pressure, all his weight seems to be in his belly, and he is limping with joint pain (joint issues run in his family). He won't go on Herbalife with me because of the cost and I can't get him to exercise.
I know society would think it was weird that a wife with a higher BMI than her husband is worried about HIS weight. I feel shallow, but he's started shaving his head and wearing glasses and it's hard to get used to all the changes. he is still really handsome. I am really worried about his health though and think his doctor has him on too many medications, but he won't listen to me. he is interested in a martial arts class, so I am hopeful, but it's funny that it's around the same cost as herbalife, which "is too expensive"
First congrads, on your weight loss. You have done fantastic and seem to be in control.
As for your husband, only he can change. You can encourage, and if you are the cook in the family, have good lean protein, and lots of veg.
That is good that he is taking a class.
We are all individuals and each one of us has our own idea of loosing and maintaining wt.
Other than being a good support system, we cannot change someone else.
Keep up the good work. You have done great....
I don't mean to be sexist, just trying to give you a man's viewpoint here.
I think the best thing is to go with it and not call him on it. If you can afford the martial arts thing, then encourage him, and don't compare the costs to herbalife until after some time passes.
I hope that he gets results. I am about 6' 2"; my doctor thinks that 200 pounds is good for me.
Hugs
Congrats on the weight loss. That's awesome.