Diets & Weight Maintenance Support Group

Chat about how well your latest diet is -- or is not -- working. This group is a great place to find support and accountability as well as share success stories and valuable lessons with the community. From where to start to weekly weigh-ins, get help from others to reach your dieting and weight maintenance goals.

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barnowl 07/16/2012

I dont know if this is normal or not but before i began to work out i liked my body. Now, about a month in to working out almost daily i look in the mirror and absolutely hate how i look. I run about 3 miles a day and have run between 2 and 3 for a month increasing to four as we speak. I have not lost a iota of weight. I look in the mirror at my stomach that i can see muscles in but its still flabby and hate myself. I do not eat many calories a day...normally i have coffee, a pb & j with all natural peanut butter and berry preserves and then what evers for dinner which is usually normal dinner things ppl have. (not like junk food or anything like that) Its beginning to develop into a huge depression for me....my bf is being supportive as is my family telling me i look great but ppl who have not seen me see me and dont comment that i've lost weight so i think there trying to build me up and make it better cause they know i'm struggling. I just dont know what to do about it.

deleted_user 07/16/2012

There is a lot going on in your post, and I don't have any magic bullet answers for you. My best suggestion is to look into some counseling. I say that for two reasons: if looking at your own body is making you hate it and leading to depression, you should probably talk to somebody about that. The other thing I find myself wondering is whether you are on your way to an eating disorder. If you are running 3 to 4 miles per day and not consuming very many calories, you could be on your way to an eating disorder. I don't mean to diagnose you or say you have one. Just putting that out there because the combination of exercise and food that you are following sounds kind of dangerous to me. It might be a good idea to check in with someone about it. Best of luck. Self love and self acceptance are really important - doing some work on them could benefit you a lot.

LivingWater 07/16/2012

Sometimes our bodies really ARE changing, but we still have a fat body image in our brain. Keep up the good work and eventually people will notice, but hey you're doing this for YOU. Don't expect too much too soon! This isn't a short-term thing. Slow and steady wins the race!

thewalker 07/16/2012

It might help you to actually journal your food intake and count your calories to make sure you are not eating too much or too little.
Also see what you are actually eating. Are you eating fresh fruits and veggies? Are you eating whole grain carbs and watching your portions?
Do you drink your calories like sodas and coffee drinks? Do you use lots of butter in your cooking? Do you use high fat and cal salad dressing? Try using low or no fat milk and cheeses. How much sugar do you eat?
If you do all this and still not losing, go get a check-up and have your thyroid tested.

ThePepperMan 07/16/2012

I found a few web sites that help. The first one calculates the amount of calories you need each day. If we starve ourselves our bodies go into an energy hoarding mode, and resist giving up our energy reserves; ie our fat.

http://www.freedieting.com/tools/calorie_calculator.htm

The next site tells how much we "should" weigh. The problem is that there is no single formula based on height, age, gender, etc that gives our ideal weight. Some of us have large frames and others small. But here is the site:

http://www.freebmicalculator.net/

The last one is a calorie counting site. Lots of info, but it does not let us create accounts and log our meals. A simple google search can find a million sites. If this one does not work for you there should be others that will!

http://www.thecaloriecounter.com/

Best of luck to you!

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