So sorry to hear what you've been through. When you say you don't know where to start, do you mean you don't know what to do to maintain a healthy weight and learn how to eat better? Or do you know how to do that but don't know how to find it inside of yourself to change? Or all of the above?

Hi, sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I know personally how depressing a miscarriage can be. I too, is trying to get over my own miscarriage. But with the weight issues you should maybe start off slow and count calories. That's what I am doing, I try doing the treadmill in the mornings but I don't get to do the treadmill daily so I have to make sure I'm not over eating. Hope this helps. (sorry for any misspelled words sending my reply from my phone)

Hello beesley it is definitly all of the above.

Thank u avia66.i am sorry for ur loss. Thank u for the advice mayb i will try to count calories and start to jog in the morning. Its just so hard to stick with things.

I'm sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage 12 years ago almost to the day. I also know how hard it is to stick with a diet, as I have been overweight for about 11 years, after I had a successful birth of my daughter I just never lost the weight and then added additional pounds on top of it. I've been saying that I was going to lose weight for that whole time. Then last year, I just had enough, I was sick of looking the way I did, and feeling tired all the time, and I knew I needed to change. Definitely what helped me was starting slow. Change only a few things at a time and have a little time in between each change in diet and in exercise. Count calories, then add some exercise, then maybe restrict a little more of the calories (remembering NOT to ever fall below at least 1200 calories a day!), then maybe add a little more exercise, start to replace certain foods in your diet with healthier choices, kinda like that. Too much change too fast sometimes is hard to stick with for some people (like me!). Good luck and you can always come to the message boards for support as well!

Just remember not to get discouraged and if you happen to have a "binge day" don't throw away your good efforts! Good luck and God bless!

Finding the strength inside of yourself to change is hard. But it is doable. I think mamamegums said it pretty well - one day you get sick enough of the way things are that you become willing to do what it takes to make the change happen. Or, maybe you want something badly enough that it motivates you to make the change. That might be something as trivial as wanting to fit into a certain dress, or something as serious as wanting to conceive. I see three ways to change: all of a sudden, kind of the "out with the old, in with the new" approach; changing a medium number of things, seeing how that works, and then adjusting and adding; or changing slowly, where you change like one or two things per week and keep adding each week. What can you change to eat healthier and lose weight? Lots of things, like cut out all soda and sugary drinks; drink more water; stop eating fast food, fried foods, and foods prepared with butter; make fresh vegetables and fruits the biggest serving of food you consume at all meals, without extra fat or sugar; switch to whole grain bread, pasta, and rice, and eat them only in moderation, like no more than a half a cup at a time; start eating lean protein like fish, turkey, chicken, tofu and beans, and reduce the amount of red meat you eat; start tracking the number of calories you consume so you understand what you are putting in your body and can then target specific things to change (a site like fitday.com or sparkpeople.com can help a lot with this); and start moving more each day, whether it is walking, going to the gym, or dancing around your house for 10 minutes to your favorite music and then adding five minutes per week until you get up to 30 to 60 minutes.

Thank u ladies so much for yor advice.

Well, that is a tough go...I am so sorry for your loss. I hope you two are ok. Best to concentrate on your menu next. People are really hanging on to their comfort food right now anyway so you are not alone!

I use a Little Black Book-Daily Food Diary to keep track of what I eat and it comes with a Personal Choice Menu template so you can make a list of your favorite foods and the calorie counts. To find caloric values use www.caloriesperhour.com.

You start by writing down what you eat and drink with calorie counts. Then, you cut back from there...cutting 500 calories per day will result in a 1lb loss over seven days. You can do it!

Sorry to hear about what happened. I feel that where you have to start is just accepting what has happened and continuing on with life.
Easier said than done right? Go look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that it happens and tell yourself how beautiful you are and that youre going to get pregnant again. Then start by counting everything that you eat, for woman the ideal fat intake a day is 40 grams of fat and then 1200 calories.
Just take it day by day.
You are only 26, keep on going in your life and try again.

Thank u ladies. Im goin to start fresh on Monday. I downloaded Myfitness pal on my andorid phone and im gonna start counting calories. im gonna go foodhopping tomorrow to buy a week of my lunch for work so i dont have to eat too much fast food. I think i can do this. I just hope I stick to it. Thanx again ladies. I am also gonna weigh myself tomorrow so I can keep track of my progress.

I use myfitnesspal on my android phone and I love it, plus you can input all of the stuff on the computer as well if you're near one. I love how it syncs like that! Good luck on everything!