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I had lost over 105+ lbs from Nov 2005 to Aug 2008.
Im really struggling with my weight. Ever since my wife told me a few months ago that she does not love me like a husband, something changed in my head. I know I was extremely devastated by hearing that and I know she took a lot of hope away from me that day. Then came the end of the year and her telling me she cannot work on us anymore and for all essential purposes, we are done. Since the end of last year Ive been on a bad spiral with my weight. Then came last week and she vented to me, which was good but, she said some things that were very hurtful. I feel I totally out of control with my weight.
I cannot let myself stay in this pattern of self-destruction; I came too far and no way in HELL do I want to go back to that hell of being obesity over weight. I guess with everything that has happened over the last few months I am questioning the person I am. Am I such a terrible person, husband, father, friend. Im I truly some of that person my wife says I am. I guess its made me question the fiber of my being. I feel so guilty and responsible for the situation I put my marriage and family in. I feel I bare the bulk of the burden and responsibility for my failed marriage and family.
What scares me with my weight is the fear of going back to that hell, a hell of hopelessness and doom. A hell where I had given up on life. A hell where I felt guilty and responsible for what had happened to me as a child. I used food to dull the pain, to cope with my guilt. Im scared to hell Im about to follow the same pattern to deal with the pain of a failed love, marriage, family.
Im really struggling with my weight. Ever since my wife told me a few months ago that she does not love me like a husband, something changed in my head. I know I was extremely devastated by hearing that and I know she took a lot of hope away from me that day. Then came the end of the year and her telling me she cannot work on us anymore and for all essential purposes, we are done. Since the end of last year Ive been on a bad spiral with my weight. Then came last week and she vented to me, which was good but, she said some things that were very hurtful. I feel I totally out of control with my weight.
I cannot let myself stay in this pattern of self-destruction; I came too far and no way in HELL do I want to go back to that hell of being obesity over weight. I guess with everything that has happened over the last few months I am questioning the person I am. Am I such a terrible person, husband, father, friend. Im I truly some of that person my wife says I am. I guess its made me question the fiber of my being. I feel so guilty and responsible for the situation I put my marriage and family in. I feel I bare the bulk of the burden and responsibility for my failed marriage and family.
What scares me with my weight is the fear of going back to that hell, a hell of hopelessness and doom. A hell where I had given up on life. A hell where I felt guilty and responsible for what had happened to me as a child. I used food to dull the pain, to cope with my guilt. Im scared to hell Im about to follow the same pattern to deal with the pain of a failed love, marriage, family.
Do not let her take you back to where you were, because you are strong enough to not go back.
That weight was like a ball and chain and you are better than going back to having that control you.
A good friend once told me that no matter what happens in your life you are still in control of the end outcome.
Yes it is easier to turn to a cheeseburger sometimes than confront the hurt, but dealing with your hurt will help you not make the same mistakes.
My ex treated me horribly and i spent almost 3 years trying to figure out why wasnt i good enough, and the truth is it is him all the way.
yes i have my faults, but you surely do not deserve this treatment.
keep your head up. keep away from the food triggers if at all possible and do not bring the junk near you and you will be ok.
I hope that helped a bit.
The world is not always sunshine and rainbows!It is a very mean and nasty place.And i don't care how tough you are,it will beat you to your knees and keep you there if you let it.You or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life!
It is not about how hard you hit,it is about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward,how much you can take and keep moving forward!
That is how it is done!
Now if you know what you are worth,go out ang get what you are worth,but gotta be willing to take those hits,And not pointing fingers saying you are not what you want to be because of him or her or anybody!
Cowards do that and that is not you!
You are better than that!
Keep moving now!and know DS Freinds are always there for you!