WELL LORRIE JEAN, WILLPOUWER
TOUCH THE GOOD NOT THE BAD
MAKE YOUR OWN PLATE WHEN YOU GO TO VISIT.

I don't know why she is like that. I feel like a lot of mom's are. I mean many women have been brought up to be the nourisher and a cooker.

I see that your profile says that you are 40 so it would be safe to say your mom is around 60 or older. I'm sure she might have some different believes about life and different views on life.

Just set down and talk to her about you trying to change your life style. Tell her that you need her support in this. Tell her that you know that she isn't trying to hurt you but making all that food makes it hard for you.

Maybe ya'll can come up with some healthy recipes together. Or maybe you could bring something healthy over.

I'm sure your mom will be willing to help you.

I know you can type and can spell because I have seen your profile, so why do you feel you should expect everyone to make the effort to try and work out what you are trying to say. People on here are desperate to help you, can't you show them a bit more respect by spending a bit more time and effort on your messages?

thanks for the advice,i feel the same way ,oh by the way i also have ADD,I;M MORE SLOWER THEN OTHERS, THANKS FOR REMINDING ME OF THAT,BUT I'M GOING TO HAVE A GOOD DAY ANYWAY,AND PRAY THAT YOU WILL HAVE A GOOD DAY TO .THANKS ALOT BUDDY.

My mum is exactly the same! It is really difficult, especially if you are visiting as you feel it is polite to eat everything. I also think the best thing is to tell her why you are eating less. Don't make it a bad thing, don't apologise, but be excited about the positive changes and she will be excited too. What mother doesn't want a happy, motivated child?

PLEASE READ MY JOURNL ALL.THEN YOU WILL UNDERSTAND ME AND MY SPELLING ,3RD #REPLY THANK YOU FOR THE COMMENT.

That was a harsh and nonthinking comment from, ..well..you know, and don't you for one minute take it to heart! I had no trouble figuring out what your message said. What a crabby person! I guess he didn't have much advice so he thought he'd crab instead. Anyway, I understand where you are coming from, and it might help for you to remember, that this is your body you have to carry around, not to mention the other problems that "you" have to endure as a result of overweight issues. You can let her know, that as much as you appreciate her motherly nurturing, and wonderful cooking, you still must keep on track. I'm sure she will respect you for it, and realize you are very serious. It also helps to look at it like this..according to the charts, I am seriously overweight (I am referring to myself by the way), and that means that I need to seriously lose weight, which means a very serious effort, bar none what anyone else does, I WILL keep to this!! I don't know if any of this will help you, I hope it does. Just remember too, no one can force food onto you, YOU have the power. It's time you have to be concerned with yourself and your goals. Keep me posted, and it's okay if you fail here and there too, it's part of the process, just don't let that temporary failure turn into a permanent one, and get back on track. Hugs to you!!

When it is time to eat, you have the control to put a small portion of foods on your plate. Tell your mom what a good cook she is and ask if you can take some home for another meal. Good luck.