I'm sorry to hear all that, I can imagine it must be very stressful and upsetting to you :-( I'm not sure what to tell you, since I have no husband, but my thoughts are with you. When I was 240 lbs. I did a lot of water exercises, because they didn't stress my joints, plus they let me wear a large T-shirt over my swimsuit so I didn't feel as self-conscious. It might be something for him to consider. Also just making some healthy substitutions in food, like nonfat Greek yogurt instead of sour cream (you can't tell the difference, at least I can't lol). I guess the only other thing I can say is that, as much as you want him to change his habits, he is the only one who can make that choice in the end :-( I really hope things get better for you both, am here to talk if you need, or to listen...

He is so bullheaded he wont eat yogurt,veg,only corn and potatoes,salad sometimes.I guess i just need to vent.I think i am talking to a wall.And your right he has to make the change,i get just upset he wont make the effort. He will do good a day or two and goes back he wont even try broccoli,asparagas no kind of greens.If he has a roll i take the insides out{i gut it} lol.thank you for input.Ibelieve he is in early kidney disease.

have you talked with his doctor? maybe he can make hubby realize what will happen if he doesn't take care of himself

Dr told him he is at his max on meds, insulin is next. His circulation in feet are bad they are cold at times,but they become numb,and his legs hurt he has so much medically wrong,his sugar this morning was 178 he is asleep now,he goes back to dr in july with new bloodwork results, myself ihave tried to explain, he sleeps more than awake. I try to get him to eat veg,chicken,turkey but it is no use. I feel guilty sometimes kidney disease,heart problems,diabetes runs in family.By the way i am a retired nurse and i do try to explain,but its different wwhen its your loved one,as a nurse i would see the effects,not the daily progress i think thats why i asked what am i looking for down the road,and maybe the dr will make him see things different.I am thankful for all input.

Have they checked to see if he creates any of his own insulin? I know I found out the hard way I did not and had no choice but insulin..

I was feeling like giving up because I never could get any good results.. High numbers no matter what I did.. Ended up in ICU with keyoacidosis.. that's when/how I found out I didn't create any insulin. No amount of pills would have helped..

You could try adding in couples physical activity.. such as a walk together daily.. Food is a hard one to tackle.. Hard to make a grown up eat something they don't want to. Just be supportive of whatever decisions he makes.. Don't try to "parent" him by telling him what he should and shouldn't do.. He likely already knows.. And if not a doctor can tell him and a doctor can suggest a dietician meeting and diabetes education classes.

I believe the dr will be making some changes,his morning sugar yesterday was 210,fever,sleep 15- 20 min,wakes up for 1/2hr back to sleep just routine for him now,stomache pains,he has microalbuminaria in urine,bp was little elevated,soreness across chest he is a walking medical nightmare,but you are correct not to parent him i can suggest his choice,thankyou for suggestions

I'm sorry I know it's hard to watch someone make poor choices. And it's hard to know what to do for that person... I'll keep you and him in my prayers.

Sounds like you need some help. Check with your Doc about some home help, maybe once or twice a week would give you a break. They have folks that, and at times your insurance will pay for it, to come in a help you. Or a short stay in a nursing home to get him regulated with his meds and eating.

If you reach out there are folks to help you. He is set in his ways...you need the help.

If he doesnt start to do right thing,he may have no other choice, cause he will end up in hospital.He is the type he will do what he wants reguardless,i get so tired,his life insurance is paid up to date,its awful to say that but truth is truth.