Sorry your husband is in the hospital ksu2013 and I hope he will recover and be home soon.

I was diagnosed with Type 2 in 2007, and felt very much like you are describing. I was afraid and not really sure what to do with this diagnosis even though my dr. explained it to me. I think fear is a common reaction, so don't feel bad about that. There was family history of diabetes on both sides of my family so I felt my genetics played a big role. I also was shocked! Don't ask me why I was shocked because in reality I shouldn't have been. :) Walking into a whole different world of eating, exercising etc. did scare me. I had to educate my immediate family (husband, daughter) on what I was now going to be eating. Learning to check my blood sugar levels was my first learning experience. Then choosing the right foods to maintain control was the next. It was overwhelming to me to begin with I will admit that. Yes, there were many times I was angry! You see, diabetes isn't just about not eating sugar. That was a new thought process for me. As time went on, I learned how much and exactly what I could eat. Portion control as well as following the diabetic diet is the key. Carbs are the thing you need to be aware of and there are carbs in most everything. I wanted to throw up my hands and scream many times!! My anger would then go into full speed and that in turn kept me in a turmoil!!! I did learn what was good or better and I learned to read labels in the grocery store. Also learned carb grams of fresh foods and meat. It is something that I work on day by day, but it doesn't have to be a nightmare if you are aware!

I don't know if your husband has been referred to a diabetic educator or just given books like I was. The books can be confusing sometimes until you really get a grasp on this. My dr. gave me a range for my blood sugar readings for the fbs (fasting blood sugar) which I do every morning after I get up. Also a range for testing after meals. I keep a record of all my numbers for my own benefit as well as being able to share with my dr. at appointments. This just helps me see how I am doing and if there is something I ate etc. that I need to cut back on.

Not trying to preach a sermon here to you, but I did want to let you know you are not alone. How is your husband handling this diagnosis? The encouragement of your family is a big help. Even my grandson (age 7) knows what I am allowed to eat. He will say "Mimi, you know you want that big old chocolate bar, but you aren't supposed to eat it!" He is adorable and my own personal cheerleader!!!!! He finds my diet drinks for me in the store, although I do try to limit those.

There are times I do RESENT being type2 but then I just talk myself out of it. Or rather I talk myself down. It is a part of me, like it or not, that has to be dealt with and I really try to stay positive. I am not going to say it is easy to stay positive, but through the years, I have learned that there are a lot of type2's and we all have the same goals (controlling that blood sugar) and need/have to help each other. This group here is wonderful and you will get a lot of support. I found more support and encouragement here than anywhere else!!! These people became like members of my extended family and they were there for me always. I was on DS right after my diagnosis and then moved and had no internet for awhile so forgot my password. This week after many attempts to remember just made a new account. I am sooooooo glad to be back here and I want you to take advantage of this group and all the wonderful people!!!

Hoping you don't have a bad headache after reading all this? LOL

Best wishes to your husband for a speedy recovery, and just hang in there and know you are not alone!!

Have a good day my friend,

Gabby

I think we all resent it at times, I have had it 17 years, I didn't go thru the denial because I knew something was wrong in the beginning but doctors kept saying no lol....did do the hatred basically at the doctors, some scared but I am the type of person who does not allow me to allow things to rent my mind.

Do know, this is no one's fault, it happens, yes the diet, etc can help it become known and play a big part in this desease, but if it was meant to be, it will happen but also know it CAN BE CONTROLLED.

Gabby gave great advice (and I do eat chocolate, yummy dark chocolate), but I count that as part of my carb intake ROFL..

The first years I did keep an eye of exactly what to eat not eat, but once I gained control, I do have the occasional desert, chocolate, even ice cream (portion control and there are many out there with only 19 carbs or so) and I will even do a baked potato - small and not often

So it is a matter of learning to eat healthy, control portion controls, worry about carbs since sugar is carbs,(sugar free is just as bad as regular because of carbs) stay away from regular pasta, try the dreamfields brand if you can find it in your area, white breads, do multigrain or wheat and look for the light versions, no fried but do baked or broiled, watch the fat content in items since fat will hold the numbers higher and longer, get protein in the form of the greek yogurts (one a night or so)

Ask all the questions you want, know we are here for you and hubby..

Support your hubby, don't become the food police, but go with him to doctors and try to go with him to a dietician. Most of us handle 30-45 carb per meal, and about 15-20 for a snack.

You don't need special diabetic diets, there is no such thing, it is a healthy and common sense diet.

you two will get thru this, tell yourself you can do this and you will.