Diabetes Type 2 Support Group
Type 2 Diabetes is a condition in which the body either does not produce enough insulin or does not make efficient use of it. Insulin is a hormone needed to convert food into glucose, a sugar that the body uses for energy. Without enough insulin, glucose can accumulate in the blood, and can cause serious health problems such as heart disease and strokes and organ damage...
my boyfriend who is 31 was diagnosed about 3 weeks ago with type 2 diabetes. he doesn't have health insurance so he has to do everything through the free clinic. lately he has lost interest in everything. he is a waiter so he works nights but he sleeps in until 1 most days and sometimes misses class because he "forgets to go", he has paperwork to fill out that he never does, and he told me today if it were up to him he would sleep all day until class or work and then come home and sleep more.
i love him so much and i want to help but i cannot sit back and be dragged into his black hole. it's not like he can make a regular apt to see his dr. they constantly cancel apts and tell him to make another. our relationship is seriously struggling. he is depressed over having to change his diet and his drinking habits. it is so painful for me to watch him let this diagnosis control him and ruin his life. i don't know what to do i feel so helpless all the time. i want to be with him but i don't know how much i can take and if this is a temporary or a forever thing.
i try to talk to him about it but he just says he doesn't know the answer and he doesn't know if it will get better.
how do i help this man?? i love him please someone shed some light.
thank you.
i love him so much and i want to help but i cannot sit back and be dragged into his black hole. it's not like he can make a regular apt to see his dr. they constantly cancel apts and tell him to make another. our relationship is seriously struggling. he is depressed over having to change his diet and his drinking habits. it is so painful for me to watch him let this diagnosis control him and ruin his life. i don't know what to do i feel so helpless all the time. i want to be with him but i don't know how much i can take and if this is a temporary or a forever thing.
i try to talk to him about it but he just says he doesn't know the answer and he doesn't know if it will get better.
how do i help this man?? i love him please someone shed some light.
thank you.
It is great you want to help him, tell him how much you love him but you can't do this for him, he has to want to do this for himself. This is not the end of the world, just a new way of life.
Diet changes are not as tough as people tend to think, it is a matter of common sense..watching carbs, portion controls, watch eating white potatoes, pasta, rice, white breads, just making substitutions and of course getting exercise.
If you mean drinking as in alcohol, then yes he will have to watch this, it can raise his numbers high, stimulate his appetite which will cause him to eat more which of course will raise the blood sugars because too many carbs.
if it is coca cola etc, then diet drinks will be better of course, there is coke zero which is good and even pepsi has a zero type.
I know that's hard to do when you're depressed and everything seems overwhelming. When he does see the doctor again he should mention the depression. I just started an antidepressant last week and I'm seeing glimmers of hope.