Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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Diane-M 02/03/2015

In the middle of trying to convince my mom tonight that she needed to accept respite care at an impatient facility ..I get a call back from a friend.I called her last week and she was too busy to talk. At first she asked if I would go to meditation with her again. She then proceeded to tell me how angry she is at how long I wait between calls. I told her I have a lot going on (she knows my situation) , the phone works both ways, and I guess she will be going by herself. The important thing is I DO call her. And A shirt time ago she told me her cat was ill and she would kill herself if she lost him. I tried getting ahold of her for days after that and when my messages were not returned I was worried enough to make a trip over there but finally got her on the phone. Guess she forgot about that. Bridge burned. I don't really need this extra stress. Ps....husband says she left a nasty message on the answering machine that I may not want to listen too.

zachj791 02/03/2015

I'm really sorry about the extra stress. I truly hope both you and your mom are ok. I'm wishing for all the best! I know I've had similar situations with old friends. It's not worth it to try and fight it sometimes. If you can find a way to make it work, I definitely wish the best in that situation. If nothing really works, always remember there are so many people out there who would be more than lucky to be your friend. If you ever need someone to talk to, I'm here!

debsue123 02/03/2015

Hi Diane, I was talking normally with my long time friend and we were suppose to go out to the movies and dinner on the following week. The next day start where she wouldn't take my calls..not respondong to text or nothing..I don't understand what happened. We were laughing that night and everything. I left her voice mails and text asking her to tell me what I did wrong so I can fix it but she didn't respond. I have known her for 45 years and now nothing.
I had to accept that she is not part of my life now and stop trying. I'm hoping someday she will miss me enough to call me but until then I just moved on. It hurt too much to keep trying and wondering what I did wrong if anything.
Do what your heart says. Pray about it and let her make the move towards you. Don't grovel(spelling?). deb

ThePepperMan 02/03/2015

Yes with friends like that you don't need enemies. I am sorry that she is acting this way.

Desigol1979 02/03/2015

My Gran was making a threat this Evening when I told her I was considering getting a car that was on offer at our local village. I am launching a crowd funding campaign and am trying to send the email to local and regional newspapers to attract greater attention.

It's a thankless task dealing with an elderly relative. They think we've never suffered in our lifetime. Distancing is the best option.

doghunter59 02/03/2015

Eventually my friends call back and after some paint drys I call them back. The most fun I ever had with this call back stuff was before cell phones when we used to have the "answering machines." we called that "phone tag."

you could leave a message of " I just seen on the news that lizzered people came out from under the Denver airioport." and you have to say it like air-e-oh-port because they might actually believe you if you said airport. Can't have that! That's what we used to do....aww but times have changed they have and today, well todays days require more stringent measures.

Hummm? let me think on it I am sure I can come up with something.

gustokitty 02/06/2015

That's a shame. I understand about the phone working two ways comment. I wish I had something profound to say that would make you feel better, but I don't. sorry. :(

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