We're here for you, and we NEED you. Please talk to us, or if you feel like your going to end your life, please get help. I'm a crisis volunteer and willing to talk to you. Hang in there.

google "respite care" and your zip code. Most county DSS offices have systems where caregivers can take a break periodically. They can also refer you to other services that will help you keep it together. There IS help out there but it takes a little digging.

http://www.helpguide.org/articles/caregiving/respite-care.htm

I don't live with or take care of mom on daily basis. It's just her personality and uncertainty with her. I wont kill myself. Can't cause have husband that would miss me. No I can't talk to my husband about mom. I never even told him that I wish she would die. He would not understand.

Barbara

Barbara, please message me! I am very worried about you and I want to help if I can. I will give you my phone number and you can call me if you want to talk. Trust me, I so understand! We love you honey. Lots of very gentle hugs. GB

Keep setting limits for your mother, and keep pushing her to rely on your brother. If she is going to continue letting him live with her, she needs to rely on him and he needs to support her.

You can do this, I know you can! It is hard, but each time you set a limit you make yourself just a bit stronger, and each time you enforce a limit you make yourself a bit healthier!

MY MOM IS 89 AND LIVES IN A NURSING HOME WITH SEVERE ALZHEIMERS.
MY BROTHER CHECKS ON HER EVERYDAY.
HE SAYS DONT WORRY ABOUT HER.
SHE DOESNT KNOW WHERE SHE IS.
I CALL HER ONCE A WEEK.
I TRY MORE OFTEN BUT CANT GET THRU MOST OF THE TIME.
I LIVE IN ANOTHER STATE.
GBU
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Hi, Barbara
I know it's hard but try not to go to negative thoughts for relief as it's not healthy, try to think positive as things are going to fine no matter what happens as in the end it is unless you focus on the negative constantly which won't help anything when you can see the positive in everyday life instead of the negative. When it comes to others whom act wrongly towards you try to not get angry, try to understand why they act in a certain way or do things and feel for them instead of hating them for it. It's a reason why they do it even if you don't agree with it. And sometimes even if people won't understand things talking may help you out in the end. That'll be better than nothing. If you need someone to talk to you can just message me. Sincerely,
Torrance

PLEASE do not carry this stress alone. contact anyone in your area that you can talk to, get a hold of Suicide Hotline, and let us be here when there is no-one else around. I am worried about you Barbara. Please know you are not alone! Let us help you!!!!!! Hugs GB

I hope you are doing better today.

Continuing hugs

Chronic suicidal thoughts/desires myself. I can relate, you're not alone. You are right, take it one day at a time and just do your best. Hoping your depression lightens up soon!