Say no more.totally totally get where you are coming from. Being strong
for everyone usually leaves us feeling fatigued and its like a feeling sort of
like - Running in a marathon-all the people you were strong for coming in 1st,
second place and here we come like feeling all drained like in last place.
But you deserve to put yourself first and nurture yourself and pour back into
yourself nourishing moments and time well spent with yourself pumping
back into yourself just like standing at the gas station and filling up your tank,
You will feel tired as you do when your tank of self-love is empty.This feeling
of tiredness also comes from pouring support and strength into others and it is not reciprocated.
Love/ Hugs-,take time out to be self centered for a moment to fill you and if
you can be around supportive family/,friends that you can relax around then do it Get your tank full and get back focusing on your Sunny Center(your Inner self).You are certainly overdue for this!!!!!!!!!!!! <3

Lilly, you do not need to be strong for us. Here we get to be real. You get to lean on us. Start figuring out who may need to lean on someone else, and who is worth keeping. Comforting hugs as you sort this out.

Osheana's reply came while I was replying. Seriously great reply. Hugs to you both.

Ive been to that point many times in my short life and wanted to give up. I just kept pushing even when i had got to the point of fully being done. Im still here, My story is to long to tell her but you can find a big chunk of it in my posts and journals. Like i tell everyone our roads may be different but we all are suffering. I can say this that i was told by a person in my IOP class," God did make us to just give up when we think its to much" It tool me a while to understand but ive tried ending it multiple times but yet im still here and the thought of why has always been in my head until here lately. Anyway IF I CAN MAKE IT I KNOW EACH AND EVERY ONE OF YALL CAN!!!!!!!! Ive lived a rough and dangerous life for many years. And yet no matter how much i wished it would end even with me trying to enforce it myself, somethings kept me going and idk what that is but i can say im here for a reason and so are you. Please check my post and things out they may be helpful in ways. But keep strong your fighter and your here on this site for a reason and metting each and everyone of us for a reason. Another thing i found thats helpful is meditation and when i get those thoughts replace them with something to do instead of letting it eat at you .....big hugs hope your days get better

Hi Lily1992

I can relate to your comment. It is hard being dependable, or strong enough to be recognized as a valuable source of help. It can be tiring. I have a friend who really lives this. He feels responsible for helping others to the point he has over extended himself. He exhausts himself because he would rather carry the burden of being tired, rather than to say no. I think the important thing is to know your limits. You won’t be much help to anyone, least of all yourself, if you’re exhausted. Scotty hit the nail on the head. I think meditation is an excellent idea. I’ll be wishing the best for you.

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I know what you mean. I play that role too even I know it is too much for me. How do we stop doing it or can we? I think the previous responses are really good. I try to do little tiny things for myself here and there like today when I went out I got myself a class of iced tea and a read for a half an hour or so. And coming here you will get support..