Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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JennaJay 05/01/2017

I've tried to get help. It was two months ago that I realized I needed help. I couldn't get out of bed, I couldn't look for work, I barely ate, and I was just so very lost. I asked my mother for help. I need a therapist, but I have general axiety when it comes to strangers and the phone, so I asked her to just help me find someone. I kept asking. I tried to explain what was wrong to my father, but he doden't want to hear about it. My friends are supportive, but it's the last semester of their senior year. They just don't have the time to help. I don't have much else in the way of close family.

It took a month before mom finally helped me find a psyciatrist, and I thought maybe thats where I need to start, get some medication and find someone to talk to after. But then she didn't have an appointment slot open for another month. I finally got some medician, but now it feels like I just have enough energy to be even more sad. She even gave me the number of a few therapists and I managed to call and I left messages and they just wont call me back. I know this isn't a good area for therapy. They're all booked up, but what am I supposed to do? I'm reaching out. I'm asking. I'm ready to talk to someone. I'm trying to get help. What else do I need to do?

I know hurting yourself is supposed to be a cry for help, but I don't want to do that. I don't like pain and I'm afraid of death, but I really don't think that I can just pull myself out of this. I just need a little help. I'm trying, so why wont anyone help me?

Gladdmatt 05/01/2017

First, welcome to the group. All of us in our own way have been through these kinds of situations. Everyone being booked up, etc. is a sad commentary on health care in our society, and if it's any consolation there probably are a lot of other people being told that the therapists are all booked up. You can wait for an appointment, or if need be you can go to any hospital and tell them you are afraid you might harm yourself. This might get their attention sooner. If your meds are not the right meds for you, the dr. should be told that and try something else. Or you can give the ones you're on more time to kick in. Another thing I've found about med is that they do help me a lot but when my life is in crisis I still feel a lot of pain. There are situations in life that are hard for everyone, even happy people. I hope you find the answers you need. May God bless your day.

ScaredKat 05/01/2017

Self harm isn't always a cry for help, a lot of the time it's an internal thing that makes someone feel better like someone with OCD right after cleaning a bunch. You do not need to harm yourself in order to get attention, especially if you're scared. As far as reaching out for help, there are a lot of help lines, and often suicide hot lines aren't just for people considering suicide. The hot lines should be there for anyone who needs it so don't be afraid to call to talk about your problems. There are also a lot of coping methods that can help depression without medication. I like to distract myself so I put on music and bake when the house is empty, I knit while watching TV to give my hands something to do, some people exercise(not me but I hear it works), and also don't be afraid to take a day to lay in bed or on the floor or whatever and just sit. Depression is real exhausting. You do have to know when to stop though, sometimes I refuse to take a day when I feel really bad because I know that if I do lay down then I probably won't get back up again. Feel free to message me if you need someone to talk to, hope things get better real soon

vwidow 05/01/2017

Is there anything specific that is bringing you down? Hope you can work through things sans drugs. They only mask what you're feeling so how are you going to know when you are better? Plus all drugs have poison in them...If you are spiritually inclined- if you're interested in the big picture and God's purpose for us: Acts 2:38 Acts 22 : 16 Mark 16 : 16 Gal 3:27 God bless you.

JAAKK 05/02/2017

Reaching Out,
I am so sorry to hear how life is seeming to be falling apart around you. Medicine should be a last resort for healing your hurts. In fact, meds only bring on more problems, because they have side effects of some sort that you will have to eventually deal with. Cutting yourself is not the right cry for help. Crying out to God is the way to start asking for help. Do you have a Bible or have a means to getting one? You can get on the computer also and look up a website called "Bible Gateway" and Read the whole book of John. John 3:16 is one of the most well known verses all over the world. " For God so loved the world that He gave His only Begotten Son. That whosoever believes in Him shall not perish, but have everlasting life." If you put your trust in Jesus Christ, and ask him for forgiveness and you want to invite Him in to your life, He will take care of you and love you! You will never have to be afraid. He will protect you, care for you, love you.....I will be praying for you!

tolonely 05/02/2017

How long have you been on your medication? It takes awhile to get into your system I just had mine changed and I feel horrible it's only been three days I feel lonely no energy I feel like life is just a movie that I'm watching nothing intrests me there is no spark for life I do what I have to to get through the day and can't wait to go to sleep I do see a therapist but for along time I couldn't find one I went to the library and found books on depression it really helped me understand the disease I'm glad you decided to join this group it will help just knowing your not the only one that have these feelings feel free to message me anytime depression is a horrible illness and nobody understands it unless they suffer from it I hate the people that say what do you have to be depressed about or you'll snap out of it no it's not that easy my thoughts are with you

nightingale77 05/03/2017

Hi dear, sorry to hear that you are going through very difficult time at this moment and help don't seem to come fast enough. I'm glad you took the courage to share on this plaform. There are many wonderful members on this plaform whom are ready to hear you and journey with you. Hang in there and talk to us via this group so that we can support you at least till you manage to get an appt with the therapist.

Please don't feel that you have to rush through the healing for the sake of the people around you. You don't need to. Be kind to yourself. Take all the time you need to slowly get well. You are loved and valued. For the time being, focus on taking baby steps daily. Try not to set too much goal at this point. Hope you will get to see a therapist soon. Meanwhile, hang in there and I'm praying for you. God bless.

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