Depression Support Group
Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.
Hey Guys,
What do you do when you're frustrated? I am a 49 year old woman, I am from NY, I left NY 7 years ago because of a bad situation with my older brother (who I was living with on Staten Island) I went to a friend in NH, but things didn't work out well. so another friend (who is married and has a kid, who is turning 12 this year) and things are so so. It's very hard to live with other people. they are a bit cuckoo. Her husband is very weird. Up until the end of 2010 he presented himself as a man. then in the fall of 2010 I slowly started to see a transformation. First he started getting his nails done, had a santa face on one of his nails and a french manicure. Up until then he had bitten his nails down to the nub. Then he started having tips put on. and the tips have gotten longer. Then he's wearing women's clothing (not dresses but he's buying clothes from Lane Bryant) and he now carries a purse like bag. Not obviously a woman's but something like it.
My friend is hard to talk to, I wouldn't trust her opinion about things. oh sure we talk mainly about TV shows or stuff that is not personal. I would never talk about my depression with her (that is what I have my counselor and you guys for)
I am frustrated being without a job, not having a support group (in RL) not having a place of my own.
my friend's daughter is sick, she gets sick at least once a year, I just wish I had enough money to move out and be out on my own
thanks for listening
Lily
What do you do when you're frustrated? I am a 49 year old woman, I am from NY, I left NY 7 years ago because of a bad situation with my older brother (who I was living with on Staten Island) I went to a friend in NH, but things didn't work out well. so another friend (who is married and has a kid, who is turning 12 this year) and things are so so. It's very hard to live with other people. they are a bit cuckoo. Her husband is very weird. Up until the end of 2010 he presented himself as a man. then in the fall of 2010 I slowly started to see a transformation. First he started getting his nails done, had a santa face on one of his nails and a french manicure. Up until then he had bitten his nails down to the nub. Then he started having tips put on. and the tips have gotten longer. Then he's wearing women's clothing (not dresses but he's buying clothes from Lane Bryant) and he now carries a purse like bag. Not obviously a woman's but something like it.
My friend is hard to talk to, I wouldn't trust her opinion about things. oh sure we talk mainly about TV shows or stuff that is not personal. I would never talk about my depression with her (that is what I have my counselor and you guys for)
I am frustrated being without a job, not having a support group (in RL) not having a place of my own.
my friend's daughter is sick, she gets sick at least once a year, I just wish I had enough money to move out and be out on my own
thanks for listening
Lily
Knowing that, just stay focused on what you need to do to get out there on your own. Don't focus on his eccentric behavior or your mistrust to confide in her. Focus on everything YOU need to do.
Some people set aside 5-10 minutes a day to get frustrated/sad/mad then make a plan to let it go till the next sceduled time.
Some people write their frustrations and negative thoughts on a small piece of paper and stick it in a box. It's sort of like, ummmm.... placing your thoughts aside, seeing your negative thoughts as seperate from your other thoughts. Then, you make a choice not to think about those thoughts until you visit the box. I find it helpful to make a "positive thought" box, also.
Hope some of that helps or makes sense.
Knowing that, just stay focused on what you need to do to get out there on your own. Don't focus on his eccentric behavior or your mistrust to confide in her. Focus on everything YOU need to do.
Some people set aside 5-10 minutes a day to get frustrated/sad/mad then make a plan to let it go till the next sceduled time.
Some people write their frustrations and negative thoughts on a small piece of paper and stick it in a box. It's sort of like, ummmm.... placing your thoughts aside, seeing your negative thoughts as seperate from your other thoughts. Then, you make a choice not to think about those thoughts until you visit the box. I find it helpful to make a "positive thought" box, also.
Hope some of that helps or makes sense.
NAMI has local and regional offices throughout the US. Perhaps you could google NAMI in your area to see if they are offering a local support group that you could attend. I wish you the best of luck! hugs