Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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SeekingKnowledge
SeekingKnowledge
How can I help my b/f (long distance) with his depression? I feel so helpless at times because he's so far away. I mean we talk everyday, but I wish there was a way I could help him. He's alone, no family. Very limited support. What can I do at a distance to encourage him?
SeekingKnowledge
SeekingKnowledge
I can only imagine how overwhelmed he is. I know when I'm really low it's so difficult for me to function. I wish I could help him with the little things that when you're really low are so major and overwhelming.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Maybe you could try talking with him through all the things he needs to get done and work together to break them into teeny tiny chunks and encourage him to get through things step by step. It helps to have some reassurance and a clear and manageable path. Since you're long distance, your phone conversations can be somewhat like therapy. I know that's what I did when my fiance was in England for 4 months. It helps just to talk through everything.
BeckyK
BeckyK
Keep talking on the phone, you are helping him a lot just by listening to him, and letting him get his feelings out. Do you have an e-mail or US mail address? Send him little love notes, tell him how much you love him and all the things that you love about him. Boost his ego, and then just let him talk. As time goes on, and he feels your love, support and understanding he will feel better.

I am in the same situation with my hubby, he is gone for work for 6 weeks right now. I hope this helps. Hugs!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Maybe he would want to sign up on this site and you guys could communicate through this site. In turn we could help you support him as well. It's just a thought ....
SeekingKnowledge
SeekingKnowledge
I like the idea of that, but I journal, and sometimes it's not the happiest stuff, and don't want him thinking he's adding to my depression, if that makes sense?