No, I think the people who judge you, need to go on that deserted island! Listen to your gut, it's rarely wrong. No-one has the right to judge you and if you haven't asked for their advice, they need to button it..
You are far too hard on yourself and I hope you can learn to trust yourself and believe in yourself. The older I get the less I care about what people think of me. Therefore, the older I get, the more I enjoy life!
Hugs GB

yes in the past I was tired o being judged ...........I always second guessed my self .....but did what I knew I needed to do in the end ....others just don't know ..what you are going through ..and they don't have to live your life ...and you can't be healthy and ..be hearing all there negativity ..all the time .....so we have choices to make ....and I did ....they got use to them after a while ...stay strong ....when you second gess your self it does not mean that your dishion was wrong ..it might be wrong for them in there life but not for you in your life ...and they might louse some controll over you and your dishion making .....it is realy more about control for them ..if it wasent they would lisen to what you have to say ..with an open mind ........take your power back ....they have no bisness ..judging you ...they schould be lisining and suporting you ..........I think you need to let them know that you don't need there opinions and that you will ask if you want them .....it sounds harsh ....but they will get use to it ....and I think better for you ..so good luck ..take care ....just so you know .i told my hole family ..how things were going to be ...if they couldent handel it they dident need to be in my life ...it dident take them long to chang there tune .......but that was my family ..you know yours best .....God bless

Thank you, ladies. As I get older I seem to struggle with this more than when I was younger.

I had been having some difficulty with my depression since the Fall. It was felt that my antidepressant was no longer working well for me and it was decided I should be switched to another. Before I could start the new medication I had to be weaned off the existing. To make a long story short I was weaned off the medication too quickly, which sent me in to an emotional tailspin (I later learned it was a withdrawal syndrome). I ended up attempting to take my life, spent four days in ICU and a further three weeks in hospital.

I seem to be having a very difficult time ... I'm not sure what word or phrase to describe it ... 'rebounding' I guess, and trying to get back on track.

I see my psychiatrist monthly, and have regular sessions with a wonderful counsellor, but despite all of that I feel like I'm spinning my wheels.

After 40+ years living and fighting with this illness I feel so drained.

Yea, I get tired of it all the time. I get the feeling all the time that people are judging me, and it really irritates me. Although I've heard plenty of times not to worry about what other people think of you I still think it's human nature to care at least a little bit. Suffering from things like depression or anxiety just make that worse I feel.

NO SUCH THING AS A DESERTED ISLAND.
LIFE WILL ALWAYS LIVE IN SOME FORM OR ANOTHER.
ANIMALS, PLANTS, ETC, INSECTS...............................
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GBU
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Yes. And then I get PISSED at those who are judging me! They're not me! And I'm not them! There's no "one size fits all" in humanity in the road to happiness!

HI again sweety. I looked up a couple of quotes that you can share with those who are so busy judging you. I hope they help. Hugs GB

1. It's okay to judge me, just remember to be perfect for the rest of your life.

2. If you judge people, you have no time to love them.

3. Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if we can't help them, at least don't hurt them.

4. The tongue is a small thing, but what enormous damage it can do. James 3:5

Judging is life. I had a big problem with therapists cause they said dont judge others. I had to quit my hospital program cause i judged other patients. It made me sick to her this mother laugh about hitting her kid with a bat. No said a word to her even the counselors cause you should not judge others. It made me sick to her hear laughing about abusing her kid all the time. I can see not judging her if she realized and felt bad about it. But she didnt.

I make judgments all the time... judge who to be around and who not. There are some situations in life that require judgment. I think harming a child is horrible and the people who perpetrate such things need the police called on them. Yes there's a big difference if they are repentant. I stay away from those that want to judge me. God will forgive all sins(if we ask for forgiveness) But to just sit in indifference about a person bragging a bout their sin is ridiculous. People who are judgmental have never taken a good look in the mirror.
Hang in there and try to forgive those that offend you.
God bless you

I have spent a lot of years worrying what other people think of me. In the end my insecurity only worsens, while I can do nothing to prove myself worthy to those who doubt me. I've learned I just have to stop caring what they think, because it hurts me, and they don't care. I could try to prove I'm the best person in the world and they will believe what they believe no matter what I do. Its exhausting and it hurts when its people I want love from, but in the end, I have no control over their thoughts and feelings. Even if I find them wrong, I cannot prove who I am to them. It only hurts me. I hope you do what is best for you and protect your heart from people in your life who do not agree. Only you know what is best for you. Sorry if this is confusing. I think I'm experiencing the same thing. To sum it up: Take care of you. Trust yourself. HUGS!!!

What was the medication called that your doc was weaning you off of? I hope it wasn't pristiq...that one is one NASTY drug with lots of problems getting off.
My doc usually.just switches me.. no weaning.

And don't pay attention to people judging you. They don't matter.
I find a lot of people to be judgemental and plain rude. I ignore them as much as possible.
A desert island sounds cool...long as you got food, water and shade. ;-)

Thank you all for your comments and insights.

Enigmatic, you are so right about the human nature aspect of it. I think 'the sting' is greater when it comes from someone we care about.

Gramybear, thank you for the quotes.

Oh my gosh, eshaw, not confusing at all. You hit the nail on the head.

Again, thank you everyone and hugs to all.

I have herd this so Maney times about when a doctor has weaned someone off of one med eather to fast ...or just off the med with out puting any other med in its place ofcorse you are going to have a very hard time ......eather way ..my doctor ..does it diferant ..the cupple of times he had to do it ...as he has taken me off one med at the same time he is putting me on a nother ....so I have no problem with ..going deaper into depreshion od ..with with...withdrawal ...systomes .......I am sorry you had to go through this .....I had a friend this happened to .....it makes me wounder ....how come my doctor knowes to do this and others don't ......somthing for you to look into ..if this happenes again .......take care ..God bless

I still sometimes feel like I am being judged (and hate the feeling) but it's human nature to make judgments and form opinions. The only thing you can do is 'be yourself' and if someone doesn't like you (or you just think they don't)..they can often be confused, don't let it get to you too much.

If you try to be someone else just so that other will accept you - that's hard work and you sort of lose yourself. I have more thoughts on this but the words aren't coming.

But I do understand what you're feeling.