Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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dyinginside35 06/13/2017

I dont know what happened to me over the last few weeks but im wanting to change my life. Everyone talks about self love, but for many years and never known what that has meant. For about 20 yrs actually. There is alot I want and it makes me emotional. I want a great life, i want to have fun but cant turn loose and when i do i feel bad for what ive done. I want love, a guy or man not a boy to truly love me, want me, need me, feel that im sexy etc. I want a house but i feel like my credit is down the drain and its a lost cause. I want to get financially and mentally stable, no guy wants a freak or someone who lives with family. I want a family, a great career etc.

I feel ive been robbed of a full life due to my past and even my present. I deal with a family that sometimes thinks its my fault, a stepfather that doesnt do anything or treats me and my mom like dirt under his feet. I want to love myself but dont know how, im going to school, working. The gym i picked up again. It makes me cry because i feel unloved a lost cause. Can anyone help

Perry314 06/13/2017

I think what you are doing is wonderful! The gym, learning about self love, going to school, working and having your goals in mind. That's great! You are doing so much! Give your self some credit for all that you are doing #1. All of your goals are 100% attainable and it sounds like you are working towards them. Your feelings of being unloved can change once you practice self love and accept that your stepdad is affecting the mood of your home. Therapy has really been helping me with self acceptance. Do you see therapy as an option? What are you studying in school? Can you save up to move out?

Perry314 06/13/2017

Also I really found these self love steps to be helpful:

https://wanderlust.com/journal/10-steps-to-self-love-success/

Heidiclark 06/13/2017

Perry is right. You are already doing so much to help yourself and that is great. You have what it takes to get where you want to be. Yeah, what are you studying in school? I'd like to know too. :)

dyinginside35 06/14/2017

Im a psychology major. I feel like im a failure or not like someone of my age. I want help

janvi 06/15/2017

HI.making positive choices in all areas helps.. asking for help helps.. being in a cheerful mood helps..

PhotoNut 06/19/2017

It sounds like you have great goals and are working towards achieving them, which is awesome! Sometimes when we are in the beginning or middle of working towards goals, it doesn't seem like we are making progress even when we are. Have you ever kept a journal or thought about writing out your goals in steps and as you make progress check it off so you have a visual of what you are achieving? A friend or mentor might be able help you keep you on track. Do you have a trusted friend, mentor, or counselor you could ask to help you in your journey? A counselor or mentor might also be able to give you good pointers on learning how to love yourself, as well, so you can see how precious you are, despite your past. Try not to rush it and take it one step at a time. I don't know how you feel about God, but I will be praying for you to start experiencing some fruit of your positive steps toward your goals!

dyinginside35 06/19/2017

I have a date tonight and im nervous

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