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wolfdreamer2013 09/29/2014

Hi everyone.
Ive been sick for over two weeks now.I feel so drained from being sick then my roomate had full knee replacement surgey on Sept 23.She got home last Firday so been taking care of her trying to keep the house work up and take care of the two dogs and do my school work for my two classes and oh get well also.I was not able to get all my homework turned in on time last night.I tried to get it all down but out of three assignments I was able to get one done.And I have half of the other done.I really take pride in my school work and try to do really well if I can at keeping my grade up.Sometimes I struggle with the classes but the two I am taking I am doing well so far but do not want to be sweating it on passing the classes.I just really could use a break or atleast get feeling better so I have some more energy.Right now I do not sleep very well from all the coughing and my roomate up and down all night cause shes either in pain or using the restroom.Don't get me wrong I do not mind helping her just wish I felt better and had some help with the care for my roomate and with the house.I know it will get better sooner or later.Just alot for me to handle right now.Thanks to all who take time to read this.Just hoping tomorrow will be better for me and my roomate.Last two days have been rough.Hope everyones doing ok.Take care.Hugs.Jerrie

mginmn 09/29/2014

Wow, sounds like you are dealing with way too much at once. I have been in this type of situation many times. And being sick is bound to lower your spirits even if nothing else was going on. Have you tried patting yourself on the back for handling things as well as you are? It's a very difficult time, but you're hanging in there and getting quite a lot done, even if it isn't to "perfection." Give yourself some credit, and cut yourself some slack. Maybe you need to first get over your sickness; is there anyone else who can pitch in to help with your roommate? If you told your teachers you are sick and needed to miss a day or two but you want to keep up with the assignments, would that be OK? Sometimes when I go-go-go I get the flu. My body is telling me it needs to rest.

I hope you have a good day.

wolfdreamer2013 09/29/2014

Thanks for your reply.Went to the doctor today cause I just felt I was not getting better.I am being treated for pneumonia.I did let my teacher know I was ill and she just stated she hopes I get well soon.Going to try and get the other two assignments done tonight.There is no one able or willing to help with my roomate.She only has me to help her.Hoping tomorrow is a better day for both of us.Thanks again for your response.Take care.Jerrie

cloverset14 09/30/2014

Hi Jerrie. You certainly have a lot going on. It sounds like you are managing to juggle everything fairly well, but I think it's time for you to drop a few balls!

First, and foremost, please get yourself well first. Pneumonia is serious business and if you don't allow yourself to rest and keep pushing on, it will only get worse. (I speak from experience.)

Would the roommate be better off in some type of rehabilitation center/nursing facility where she can get the care she needs?

Please take good care of yourself and get well SOON!

wolfdreamer2013 10/01/2014

Thanks for the post Clover.I am actually feeling some what better today.Was able to get more accomplished around the house and with my schooling.My roomate is trying to help as much as she can with the kitchen and folding clothes and such.She would probably get more attention and care at a nursing home but I would not ask her to go cause if it were me I would not want to be in a nursing home.I think they are very depressing and I know how the ones are around here.We have a very close friend who has to live in a nursing home cause of her health and she gets very down at times.I think having a good atmosphere helps with the healing.If my roomate were to have to go in a nursing home I feel it would make her depressed and cause a set back.It has been hard for both of us and with me being ill even worse.But I think we both are starting to do better.Again thanks for your concern but I go back to the doctor next week for another check up and I am feeling better.Take care.Hugs.Jerrie

cloverset14 10/01/2014

Jerrie: That's great news that you're feeling better. I would not want to be in a nursing home, either. When my mom was 76, she had a major stroke and lived out the rest of her life (three years) in a nursing home. It was miserable.

I'm also glad that you're roommate is doing better and is able to help you out some. She is truly blessed to have you for a friend! HUGS!!

Bobby5000 10/04/2014

Good luck and what you are doing sounds impressive and imposing. I suppose if you are going to be late on an assignment, try to ask for an extension before it is due.

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