Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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Elephant94 01/16/2019

I am new to this site, but I really just need someone to talk to... Every day I wake up just hating myself... Every day, I compare myself to someone wishing I was skinner, prettier, had more friends, etc. My best friend lives 5 hours away from me and I get so jealous when other people hang out with her, or she always comments back on a facebook post how that person is her number 1 supporter, and she couldn't do it without them. It makes me ad because I have always been there and supported her, and it upsets me that she says things like that. I probably shouldn't let it get to me, but it does.

My insecurities get the best of me, and I am not sure how to deal or cope with anything. I am a full time college student, and there just ins't enough time in the day to have time for myself and to remind myself that I am okay. I hate waking up every morning dreading the day, dreading the time I have to look at myself in the mirror, dreading the time I have to talk to someone.. Even though, I tell people that I am fine, deep down inside I am not fine..

Deckard 01/16/2019

I would like to share a quote from Bill Murray... "Social media is training us to compare our lives, instead of appreciating everything we are. No wonder why everyone is always depressed." - Bill Murray

simpleliving 01/16/2019

I hate to hear about how unhappy you are with yourself. I had a college age child with depression and it was so hard to watch her go thru it. She is now out on her own and it is still hard to watch, but she has improved once she left college, got therapy and came home to the ones who really care about her. College sucked for her. Who she considered friends, were not real friends. It took her to experience their cruelness to realize it... more so then us telling her.
I suggest to continue to meet new people. Realize not everyone is nice and not everyone will have your back. The more you experience those type people the easier it will be to find the right ones.

henceretyl 01/16/2019

I am sorry to hear of this, and I would like to give you a piece of advice. I don't know if it is the right thing to do, but it is what I would do, so take it or leave it. it is up to you, I just hope that it helps you at least just a little bit.
I think you should speak to your best friend. Call her or make a day out of going to see her. You are close, and she will listen to you, and understand that you are not fine, despite how much you say it.
however, this is just my suggestion. take your pick whether to follow it or not, I hope that you can say that you are fine and actually mean it soon.

Brooke911 01/16/2019

I understand completely how you feel. I use to wake up feeling so down about myself. I kept thinking that I could be prettier, I could be skinnier, I could be this or that. I finally had to accept the fact that I am who I am and that's alright. I am perfectly fine with who I am. Nothing is wrong with me. And nothing is wrong with you either. You are beautiful. Gorgeous. Smart. Funny. Talented. You are everything that you ever dreamed you would be.

Bluebird20 01/16/2019

I can relate to how you are feeling and I'm sorry you aren't feeling too happy. I prayed to God to send me people I could help and who would help me, and he answered my prayers. You may find God, if you believe in him or her, may answer your prayers. I will pray for you. My situation is still very limited in happiness, too. But I have learned that people can affect you sometimes in a way that makes you feel you are wrong. But in many cases they have the problem or it has nothing personally to do with you.

Elephant94 01/17/2019

Its just so hard... how does someone just accept who they are and stop comparing themselves to others? I mean, I'm in the hygiene program and I am surrounded by so many beautiful, smart, funny ladies... it is a true struggle for me everyday...

I appreciate everyone's kind words and their support through all this. I don't mean this in a bad way, but I am glad I am not the only one who struggles with things like this, and we can all help each other get through it!

hopeful0907 01/17/2019

It is so easy to look at others and compare how we just do not measure up. This is a dangerous and painful way to live as you have discovered. As a mom I struggle with seeing how other parents are and wonder if I am doing a good job. I remind myself daily that my kids are happy and healthy so I am doing fine. I am glad you are reaching out, we need others to help us when we are down and it is brave for you to admit you are not okay right now. I have a few suggestions if you like:
1. Try to start each day with being thankful for 1 good thing in your life. Write a note or 2 and stick them where you will see them and repeat them out loud to yourself daily until you get it in your heart and head. You have something to be thankful for, there is at least one thing you like about yourself so start small and work up.
2. Stop following your old friend on social media, you are only seeing her highlights and you do not know the things she is going through. Take a break and stop comparing.
3. It is time to have some fun and find some new friends. It is okay to grow apart from people and let new people in. Do something new or do something you know will bring a smile to your face: amusement park rides, dancing, singing karaoke; whatever, just have a good time without being pressured to share it or whatever.
4. learn to love you again. Take some time to discover the person you are and the things you enjoy. You are growing as a person and change happens, so embrace it.

Please continue to reach out and if your symptoms do not resolve over the next few weeks, please speak with a professional. I am sure your school has some people you an reach out to, do not be afraid to ask for help. We all need it from time to time. Hugs

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