Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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Desperate4life84 10/03/2018

I wouldn't be coming here and haven't needed to im a while I need help. A few months ago, my world got turned upside down. It started when my bf got injured, he almost died. Around the sane time, I started a new job where I worked 14 hour shifts, and management was abusive. On top of that my mom was having marriage problems she wanted my help but i blew her off guess because after years of heartache i was focused on me, as a result my mom bad mouthed me and my bf. My mom and bf had a falling out. My mom blows up my phome my mom has hurt me b4. She demands time w me , every time I talk to her i cry. My mom has been there but she expects me to talk to her every day. I have been crying, doubting everything. I cried because I wanted love a better life and to be happy. I've been a mess how can I fix this w everyone im tired of drama. What do the tears mean. I love my bf although I'm confused with my mom plz help do i have what it takes. Im afraid if i talk to both of them one will get upset but I want the good times back especially with my bf a d i.

Magwayen 10/03/2018

It’s hard to choose between 2 people you love. I had a very rocky relationship with my mother.. I personally had to take some time away from her, for myself. In the end, it helped her too, and helped us take a step back and rebuild a proper and healthy-ish relationship.
No one can really help you make this decision. You alone know if you’re able to eventually have a good relationship with her. As for your bf.. I’ve had to many abusive ex’s that used family against me to control me and isolate me. I’m no good for bf advice :/

Onlythelonely 10/04/2018

Sorry for all you're going through. I had a difficult relationship with my Mom also. It was making me so miserable. I felt like no matter what I did, no one was happy, including me. I realized I had to take care of my self first.

I started listening to the radio call in program New Life with Steve Arterburn. I love the program. I listen to the callers' questions and problems and the counselors advice and answers. The counselors also recommend resources. I learned about the book Boundaries by Henry Cloud from the program. I read it and learned that I had no boundaries, All my life anybody could do anything to me and I had no voice. It really helped me set boundaries with my Mom. Our relationship is so much better now (at least on my part). I have learned to recognize her manipulation tactics, but it doesn't scare me, make me feel like a child, or make me angry anymore. I have learned to love my life, my husband and children, to change what I can change about myself and my life and not allow her to make me unhappy.

Saying a prayer for you.

Bobby5000 10/05/2018

First, with mom, you need to set some realistic limits.. If you can't talk everyday, then every other day is fine. When you set these realistic limits, just don't let the conversation deteriorate or retaliate. . If she starts to attack you, keep your demeanor good, briefly say I have to go and that's fine. She will have to deal with it.

Perhaps your boyfriend does not want your mom to dominate him, and I would not worry about a little dispute.

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