Depression Support Group
Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.
I could write books upon books about how screwed up I am and how good I am at hiding it but today my 15 year old who I have been dealing with loving and battling with for 8 years beat me physically and mentally long story short my issues are deep narcissistic mom who abandoned me but saving face she paid the bills I lived alone from 13 til I graduated school prior to that I was abused by a relative I found out recently n that the storit's i knew about my real father were all lies I lived my whole life thinking he abandoned me come to find out my uncles did not like him and chased him off by a close friend of my mother when they were younger I was terrified of adult men when I was 7 til who knows when I ever saw a picture of my father but my mother told me he was around and wanted to kidnap me I was bulliedd and beat up almost everyday during school I screwed up I a lot of aspects of my life til now I am 48 I have a 15 year old daughter with aspergers and she is bipolar I am divorced and both my 15 and 13 year old daughters live with me my daughter had been difficult since this process started 8 years ago I could go I to details on mistakes made by myself and my ex but the issue really is today she wins I have fought the fight to teach her right from wrong but I can't fight I am so depressed I nor anyone else can get through to her I am alone no family no friends just me and I am conceding
Aspergers is an interesting syndrome; they don't lie. They don't lie. They can be very selfish, and come across as cold because they don't really have empathy the same as the rest of us - but a door can beopened on that and they are logical to a fault. I can find out more from the daughter's BF if required. (PM me. I can ask him anything.)
The best way to get advice about how to handle teenagers is from teenagers. Their reality is simple. clear. small. If you try to get them to handle an adult one they balk and they tend to get kind of priggish at you... which is demeaning. the sort of thing I would have got a hiding for as a child, But the point is: don't soak it in. :) Let it flow away downstream. You yourself could even have a touch of aspergers.
You've been brave and had a long litany of crosses to bear but you don't have to give up. Just sit down and rest. You love the kids, and the kids love you. Don't overthink right and wrong or you will drown them in the bathtub; everyone under the age of about 30 is dreadful so just let them start dreadful and don't worry about it too much. Life will teach them consequences. You don't have to.
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