I'm sorry that someone hurt you so badly. I hope that with the help and support of people here you can work through it and move on to find what you need.

She doesn't deserve your time and effort. She probably will not give you the answers that you are looking for. It is best you walk away with your head up high.

Get some sleep. Think about it when you can think clearly. Hang in there. Hugs

I am sorry you got hurt. Take a deep breath and try to relax and get some rest. I agree you are better off without someone like her. Hugs.

Trust me-not all girls/women are like that. One bad apple does not spoil the whole bunch as the saying goes. She obviously has her own issues. It is too bad she dealt with them in a way that caused hurt to another person-you. I am 59 yrs. old and believe me, I have been in more than one relationship where I was left behind, used, played, or whatever you want to call it. At the time I thought it was the end of the world. I thought I would never get over it. I became very depressed. And it happened to me more than once. Listen to me. It is NOT the end of the world. You WILL get over it. I know these sound like idle words to you now but if you ever had faith in anything please believe me you are going to be OK!!!!! Keep busy. Surround yourself with friends. Keep talking. Keep a journal-write in it EVERYDAY. Write on here everyday. People on here DO care!!!!! I personally will be watching to see how you are progressing. Another thing that helped me and this might seem silly to you , but -everyday at the end of the day I would say/think to myself "I made it through another day -I didn't call him (if I felt the urge to call him or if I felt like driving by his house or calling him). And as each day went by I felt a little better day by day until slowly I realized I didn't feel as bad as I thought I did. Now this didn't happen overnite. I guess what I'm trying to say is don't fight your sadness and pain-you can't . You can't get just get "over" it. You have to go "through" it. Remember it's probly nothing you did wrong. Like you said, you were probly a rebound boyfriend. You were put in an unfortunate situation. Don't let one bad experience destroy your happiness. I wish you well.

Thank you all for your responses I know that I have to do something that won't be easy. I know that I can't focus on what I lost but what I will gain not worrying about how she feels about me. I learned a little bit about not investing so much in 1 person until I know that it is returned at first she was totally up for it and I felt the connection that you have when you start to fall in love. Then as time passed I felt her slipping away and I thought it was me but it was her ex. She kept starting arguments with me over the smallest things like if it took me longer than 3 minutes to respond to a message she sent. She used my insecurities against me. I don't see why she kept me hoping for something different if she knew how she felt. I see all the signs but I believed the shit that came out of her mouth. I shouldn't have been so stupid. I actually think that I knew but I didn't want to lose her. She is a horrible person I think to be able to kick me out of her life and I know that she doesn't even think twice about it. So I say fuck her. I hope that I am not stupid enough to go looking for more heart ache.

Until you found a new flesh-and-blood honey, love God and Christ. This might help you calm down.

Thank you all for your responses I know that I have to do something that won't be easy. I know that I can't focus on what I lost but what I will gain not worrying about how she feels about me. I learned a little bit about not investing so much in 1 person until I know that it is returned at first she was totally up for it and I felt the connection that you have when you start to fall in love. Then as time passed I felt her slipping away and I thought it was me but it was her ex. She kept starting arguments with me over the smallest things like if it took me longer than 3 minutes to respond to a message she sent. She used my insecurities against me. I don't see why she kept me hoping for something different if she knew how she felt. I see all the signs but I believed the shit that came out of her mouth. I shouldn't have been so stupid. I actually think that I knew but I didn't want to lose her. She is a horrible person I think to be able to kick me out of her life and I know that she doesn't even think twice about it. So I say fuck her. I hope that I am not stupid enough to go looking for more heart ache.

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I am so sorry drew for my comment on your last post. I'm the one that said I thought she was on the rebound and if I knew that it was going to upset you so badly, I never would have said it. Sometimes my truth can be hurtful. Please don't take any of it to heart because it is all about her and not at all about you. Not all women are like that so don't give up. Please take deep breaths, take a nice warm shower, and watch something funny on TV or DVD. That might help your shakes if you don't have medication. There are also herbs that can help and teas too. Again, I am so sorry if I got you upset. Hugs GB

Grammy bear the fact that you were right means that I should only value what you have to say even more. Thank you.

Thank you for your kind words drew and trying to make me feel better. I always want to be honest with you and be here to support you! You are a very good person, I feel it in my heart. Hugs GB