Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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AngelMarie 05/13/2018

Everyday somebody tells me I’m fat or ugly or if I get up and move around I’ll lose weight or they swing at me then laugh like it’s all fun and games they do it so much that I get mad and get an attitude with them cause of it so they call my mom and tell her I’m getting an attitude for no reason mind you I’m 20 years old and I swear the attitude is always because of somebody saying something about me that you should never tell someone in your family. It does nothing to talk to them cause they’ll just say I’m being over dramatic. They’re not worried about me at all and have made that pretty clear when they had the nerve to say my brother is the one who’s got nobody they treat him better than me. Last night he said everything’s better when I’m not around and nothing was said to him. They make me feel so low that I wonder why I’m still on this earth. But nobody sees anything wrong with it I only have one friend and she’s my best friend while everybody else has each other and the some. She doesn’t want me to do anything stupid but if I don’t get another job soon and get out I’m gonna do something she doesn’t want me to do I’m either gonna go completely off on somebody or I’m gonna do something else that’s not good because I’m sick and tired of being sick and tired of this stuff it’s down right pathetic for FAMILY to treat someone like this.

soulsearcher83 05/13/2018

I definitely see something wrong with tearing another person down, especially family. I went through it with my dad. He had me working out in our living room after school when I was 10. My biggest regret is not cutting them off sooner. I wish I had cut him off the day I turned 18 and never looked back. But I stayed and took even more abuse and was traumatize even further . I didn't know that I was suffering from such debilitating depression linked to complex PTSD which my family caused. You're 20 years old now. You have every right to put your foot down and say enough. And if they don't get the message loud and clear, you have every right to cut off contact with them. No blood is thicker than water bullshit either. Family does not end in blood. And for some people like us, doesn't even start there. You have an opportunity now to build your own family around you with people that truly love you and support you. Do whatever you need to do to find work, save money and get away from them. I never personally found therapy to be terribly helpful but I know a lot of other people do. It might be helpful to at least have somebody to talk to about what you're dealing with , somebody that can help you put an action plan into place and get you the hell away from those people. Family does not do that to you. You don't need to take it.

Anna1212 05/13/2018

I'm sorry that sounds bad. My family isn't very nice to me either. It's an awful feeling when they should be there for you and they aren't. I'm glad you have one good friend. I agree with everything that soulsearcher said. I think the more independence you can get the better. good luck in your job search. hope something turns up soon. take care.

shadowlady 05/13/2018

I'm sorry for your pain, Dear. It seems that family can hurt you more than anyone else. If you still live at home, might be a good time to find your own place. I'll keep you in my prayers. God bless.

TotalRegret 05/13/2018

Hi Angel. I'm so sorry that you're being abused in such a horrible way. It sounds like it would be healthier for you to be away from that environment, but it also sounds as if you're not going to be able to do that immediately. So, you need to have a strategy to cope until you're able to escape.

Unfortunately, you have no control whatsoever over how people treat you and it's especially sad when a person is treated badly by family. The only thing you have control over is your response - try to remove yourself from the situation. Don't get dragged into some kind of fighting game, because it won't work. Essentially, you have 2 choices: you can either let them get to you, in which case you're surrendering all your power, or you can keep hold of your power and use it to strengthen yourself. It's not easy, but you can develop the habit so that it gets easier.

Recognize what you have control over and what is out of your control and just focus on the former - everything else is just a waste of energy.

Get a plan together about moving out - it's important that you can see yourself in a future place away from this chaos. And don't listen to the lies that they speak to you because that's exactly what they are, lies!

Above all, give yourself some love - you deserve it!! TR

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