Hi, i noticed that this site in general seems to be on the quiet side, i am on another site for social anxiety which has a bit more activity but as with forums and other places they can get a bit cliquey. It would be nice if there was somewhere you can be yourself, but the internet these days you cant do that without someone jumping down your throat,

Sorry you have had problems here. These sites, like life, seem to become cliquey quickly but there a lot of caring people people here. Learning to ignore ignorant posts and comments is a great takeaway that works in real life.

With me, I just take what I need and leave the rest. I don't let stuff bother me.

God Bless

If anybody has problems with their posts being attacked, please feel free to contact the CL in the group. (For depression it is me and WanderingVet.) They have given us some tools that can help.

If you do bring it to our attention, please make sure to reference the post by name, the group it is in, and the response that you feel is an attack.

I'm so sorry. Please don't feel alone, I care, and I am sure that there are others who care, too. One thing that is a sure-fire cure for depression is to find someone hurting and do something nice for them...it help to focus on someone else and their problems for awhile. (This is not intended to detract from your own problems, just to take your mind off them for awhile) Every person is completely unique and special...so are you. You are a one-of-a-kind, beautiful individual. Make a list of all your good qualities, be honest...get a friend to help if necessary...you will probably be amazed. Another thing that will help is to just start listing every good thing in your life, every good thing that happens to you. I believe that God loves you, and I will be praying for you!

You ballsed something up due to a temper and people mentioned it and now you're feeding the temper. When you're okay again it would truly be lovely for you to come back. But don't dress this up as people not being supportive. They're supportive of you. They just don't lie to you. Being supportive does not require telling someone a pack of lies.

The more useful move to you would have been for you to stop, and listen, and say 'yeah, you're right. I came away with no money back, no certificate, no nothing. I spat the dummy, blew my stack, and then I lost everything. yes, that happened.' Instead you go into denial.

We've all blown our stack. We've all sent that letter. And we've all lost jobs and lost money. Nobody here was describing anything they hadn't already done themselves. And if we don't hate ourselves for having done it, that's an indication we don't hate you either. You ballsed something up. That's cool. We all balls up. Now let's face that and accept what it has to teach, and move on.

Sould Searcher I know you aren't going to read this but I want other posters to see it and I will PM it to you as well. Like I said before, your message to that co9mpany was powerful and very well written. I am excited about your plans for web design and so is my husband who used to do web design. My hope for you is that you can focus on your strengths, your plans and your determination to get where you are going no matter what; and ignore people like your parents and people here at DS who do not support you. I hope you stay in touch and keep me posted on your progress. If you want I can share some tips on web design from my husband.

That truly upsets me that you are being attacked. If people don't have anything supportive to say, please don't say anything at all. I hope you will find friends that will help and support you and please don't leave. Hugs

There really are some really supportive people on here. Just look at the above posts. It is sad that you feel that you must leave. I just came across your post and thought you sound genuine. I have been here for just a few months but have met some really nice people that have offered compassion, support and Hope. I Try to pass these gifts on when I can and hope that I can make someone feel better at least for a while..

I know what the Depressions and Low Self esteem is like. I have to work towards the solutions constantly. This is accomplished by trying to keep out of my own thoughts, reaching out to others, meditation, and chating with people Like yourself. So if you do decide to return and you read this post I hope you are having a better day. And if you didn't read this post I want to thank you for helping me get out of my own thoughts for a while.

I kept getting notifications that people were commenting on this post so I thought, "Maybe, this time, some decent people commented." Overall, I found that to be the truth. Thank you Katie, Heidi, DC et al. Because you cared enough to reach out, you propelled my decision to return.

I lost nothing by telling that company I didn't want the job. I gained the opportunity to go back to school and seek out employment with people I have already worked with. Thanks to a combination of working on campus, disability and the support of financial aid (grants, loans, scholarships), I'm moving by May.

Pepperman, seeing posters that are blocked when not signed in is a problem with DS. I don't know if that post is removed for me only or for everyone but I don't want to see them at all. Can more be done in this area other than avoiding reading anything until signed in?

I will not tolerate abuse or attacks. If you engage in such behavior, I will immediately report you. Fair warning to any compelled to take out their own issues on me or others.