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My husband was put on antidepressents several years ago. He has hepatitis C and c.o.p.d. I really think I need help but don't know where to turn. I am becoming really depressed myself, and need to vent. Life has been so unfair to me so far. At 17 I was diagnosed with Turner's syndrome. I fell in love with a childhood friend, but our families did not want us hooking up. My mom did not like him, and she and his nanny and his mom watched us like hawks and hardly ever let us be alone together. So, he moved on to someone else. He was only 16 and he started dating another girl, and got her pregnant, so guess who got left out in the cold. I think his family, like a lot of our neighbours thought I was maybe a card shy of a full deck, because I was usually very quiet and they took that as I was not too bright. He did not see it that way, but he chose to be with her, because he didn't want to lose his child. Anyway, I married and I told my ex-husband early on that the possibility of my ever getting pregnant was slim. Things were okay for a while. I quickly learned that he was spoilt brat, though used to getting his own way. He would do something nice once in a while so I stayed. Anyway, after our last visit to a gynecologist who was a fertility specialist he really started abusing me emotionally and physcologically. Anyway, he started talking to this girl on one of those chat lines, and became involved with her, and got her pregnant. Then, a year later i met my current husband and three years ago he became ill. I love him and know he loves me, but we haven't been able to be intimate and I am feeling so sad and lonely. I don't want to cheat on him, and hurt him, but I am so lonely. We don't go out together much anymore and he rarely leaves our apartment and I take care of him basically by myself. I know he needs me. I feel so sad when I see couples and families out together and mother's day is not my favourite day. Most of my own family is 1000 miles away, and I would not want to go back there to live. He doesn't talk to his mom. Help.
I know your husband is sick, I'm not sure if he has the health to go out, or do activities outside. But you HAVE to talk to him, explain to him that you feel alone and life has lost it's spark. He may feel guilty, tell him is not his fault. But let him know you need his support like he needs yours.
Just to let you know the power of a calm, well spoken conversation here's a little story.
My grandma after 15 years of not going out, feeling depressed and suicidal one night told me that she was leaving my grandfather, he had ruined all those years for her. He never wanted to go out, talk, it was like they're were sofas in a house. And also after 30 something years they were't married. Cutting all the details, I convinced my grandmother to have a serious talk with him, and she did. After letting all her thoughts out, he stood there quiet. So she told him to leave and never come back. After seconds of pure silence he started crying and finally talked. they were things he felt he never could have said before because he was blinded by the routine that had become his life... They got married moved in together and they're doing good.
What I'm trying to say is, talking and letting your partner how you feel in extremely important. If you see no interest, and no response from him. it sounds bad, but BE SELFISH and leave. Go back home where you want to be, Find your happiness because maybe is not with him.
In a blink on an eye you'll be 80! and there's no turning back.
good luck!
As for the other men in your life. They are gone which is good thing and are in the past. You did nothing wrong to cause it. Don't be so hard on yourself.