k, here goes...

once in the hour of power I happened to hear something I never expected.

ppl who drink will get their pennies and pitch in...ppl who do drugs kill and maim...

case closed...the man was right/proper....

I suppose what he ment was drunks were not as emotionally starved as ppl who were doing various drugs....

hay not casting stones here...just say'n what I heard while waiting for food.....not a bed, just food...!

I think those of us who have suffered so much from this desease understand what it took and still Kaye's us to over come or just to keep our head above water .....and so first most of us are people who feel very deapely ......and when we see others going through depreshion we understand it and if you understand the pain body and emotionally pain and are in it you understand that person what they are going through people who never went through depreshion just have no clue what we go through and we know that to so we have found eachother here we suffer we understand what we go through so how could we not have compassion for each other ......those of us who have reached the very depths and are doing better but are here because we still need support ...for me I needed someone to talk to who could understand me and I feel such compassion for everyone in here trying to live with depreshion ....I have lived with it all my life and I hope to help give some one some help to learn to live with it to heal from it to let people in here know that they can get better because I have had that experience I have been better and I have been worse ....this runs in my dads family ...but also things have happened in my life that caused trauma to me .......I hurt so much I don't want not one other person to go through what I go through ......I think because of the amount of time I have suffered and the depths I have sunk to and have dude my self out of and after all these years I find I need this extra support and it has made me want to support others ....?......we aren't all at the same place I think not all are yet feeling good enough to see themselves with there heads above water it is harder for them to help others and these people are people I feel very strongly I want to help and I don't want to see them leaving here because I know they need to be here .........but I have to also look after my self and so I have to take breakers from the depreshion bord or just hearing how bad some of the people are feeling in here will bring me dowen so I take breaks and try always to talk to the new posts .......and I like to I courage them to find frends to talk to as well and other groups in here made from people in here so they have a balense of things to be thinking about when they come here ........so that is just me ......I have made a cupple of realy good frends in here .....I can't talk to people out here in my life like I can to people who have gone through what I have they just don't get it and I don't want to bother them with it .....and the more you talk and start to know people here you can talk about all kinds of things but if you are having a bad day instead of having to keep it to your self you can come here and tell people just that in its self helps and than to be answered by some one who gets it is prisless....also when you are able to give compassion and you see that person stay with the group and thank you for what you had to say it makes you feel good you can actually feel that and eney time you are feeling somthing good that is fighting depreshion ....................you are right about compassion it is very powerfully "............and when given freely and with love and especualy understanding it can heal .................I have received healing from being in this group from the compassion of people o don't know from people who have become frends and from giving compassion ...............sorry this ended up so long I just feel it is very important ....thank you for bringing it up ......god bless

..the bulk of charity is given by people who have the least. That has always been true. You have to experience it to understand it.

I understand what you mean exactly Drake, you have to help as best you can but still remember that your own stress level has to be held down just enough to keep it from topping off. Much the same as how a person needs to try to shut off their job stress off when they go home at night to shut off the stress it takes to do it or they can't continue to work.

This is a point I've always pondered about human nature. I do believe it has something to do with knowing what suffering is---THEN, you can actually reach out and lend a hand, because you can immediately remember what it was like to feel that way, to be in that position, and to be wondering where all the good people were----

I think that is why you find some of the kindest people in the most unexpected places. And why only one person can make a huge difference in your day.

May I also add, there is nothing that can compare to true compassion. It might seem rare at time, but that is because it is hard-won.

I have seen it in people's eyes, without them saying a word. And it has helped me.

I have read between the lines, and seen it in another sufferer's words, typed on the screen. And have been moved by it.

I think another thing about it is that it can masquerade as protectiveness, stubbornness, shyness, awkwardness, and other funny vagaries of human behaviour. But it is there, and I am so so grateful for it.

I think just a lot of us have an empathy for someone in pain.
I know I have difficulties separating empathy for compassion sometimes

An ex described them as such...If a person was drowning in the water

Compassion is throwing them a rope.

Empathy is throwing yourself in the water with them.

While the often heard phrase, "misery love company" is true, research has shown, and all of us here at DS already know that:

Misery loves miserable company.

Just as others have said. Those who have "been there" get it.

Bz,, I always thought there's just nothing like a person who understands to 'cheer you up'. You know the person doesn't just feel sorry for you or think a little fun will pull you out and you'll be cured. Not sure misery loves company is the same as that.

I am so touch by your post and i feel the same way and i want to give hugs and support to people that need it some much Thanks for posting this. Huggies Fibrowitch

Although I am only human, I do strive to be be kind. Some peole mistake my protectiveness or honesty for meanness, but neither is the case.

I think it is just much easier, and yields far more rewards all around, when kindness is practised regularly. As a rule, essentially.

The Dalai Lama makes a lot of sense.

"Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them, humanity cannot survive."

"Be kind whenever possible.
It is always possible."

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If people see being compassionate as a weakness, and they proceed to prey upon me for that, well, then--- it's definitely their issue, not mine. The guilt lays squarely on their shoulders.

Because I believe being genuinely compassionate makes you see farther, and also actually makes you stronger, as it requires selflessness, sensibility, patience, and a kind of vision.

It teaches one the value of all the 'little things'. And diminishes the differences between people.

Simple,we speak the same language,in other words we suffer from the same pain......