There are things that you can do to address the weight thing. I'm in my second year trying to lose 50 pounds. I've plateaued, gained weight, gone up and down, all sorts of set backs.

Let me know if you want to talk about it.

Please find the way to love yourself in the moment. I ask this, because us fatties have enough people hating us without us hating ourselves too. I want you to know that I am on YOUR side. I've never met you, but I have had my share of hating the man in the mirror. He does not deserve to be hated, and neither do you.

How about some ((huggylove))?

Be at peace, unless you plan something better.

Back in 2007 I weighed 256lbs and today I weigh about 157. I have been as light as 132lbs, I never knew that I could do it, but I certainly have.

I did it by making gradual, manageable changes. Exercise is key. The more that you move your body the better you will do. Move, move, and then move some more.

i always have a hard time bying close ..............i am als ooverweaight but even when i wasent i was the same .............i was luckey that the two wedings i was a part of were i the family so i got to chouise the dress not the colour but the styil of dress .............i realy feel for you ...........i think in your situation i would have have some crying fits to ................especualy with my depreshion the way it is now ..........if you have to ware that dress than look in the bathroom mirriour and do your make up and check your hair and dont look atthe full length mirriour when you leave .....and love your self for who you are ...............i dont know how mych time you ave till the wedding but maby you could try to louse some weaight befor it comes ..............get a lot of exersize .............walking ........and othere exercises ...........lots of veggies no bread or pastas or potattoes ...............let me know how it goes .....................take care god bless

thanks guys.....the wedding was fun. and the dress..i got compliments!