Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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orion777
orion777

Hello,


I decided to phase out of a support group that I was going to.  Even over the Zoom meeting, I was feeling super uncomfortable, and I was not totally sure of the reason.  But, now I understand.  The facilitatator/leader started to make me feel 'off,' and he kept accusing me of having anger issues when I was not even feeling particularly angry.  Now, I have learned that he has severe anger problems, to the point of screaming at his wife and whomever is around, and even maybe throwing things.  I don't want this kind of person being "an expert on me," or telling me how to live.  He used to life-coach me when I was going through domestic violence and then just disappeared when it hit total crisis levels.  He cancelled as I was getting ready to drive out to the appointment. Prior to that, he was totally awesome.  I didn't know he was this way, or maybe he's changed.  I don't think he's the right person to be giving me advice or coaching me. And, I don't have respect for him.


Lavender80
Lavender80
Well sounds like you were appreciative of the help he did give, but you've had some time and experience now with him. This has lead you to able to make a better observation of his overall character.

If you don't think he's the right person for you to advise or coach you, or have any respect for him...he's not the person to help heal you.

You have every right to stop, make a different choice, and find someone who better fits your mental health needs.

I had a therapist who was helpful with my breakup. As that kind of concluded, I wanted to address some more personal issues...that I honestly realize...he wasn't the right person for me to explore these with. I have no hard feelings towards him...but you know when something doesn't feel right.

You have to advocate for yourself and trust your instincts. Sending you light and love!
Anna1212
Anna1212
I agree with you. He doesn't seem like the right person to advise or coach you. Doesn't sound like he should be advising anyone. It's really hard to find a good counsellor. I've never really had one that was just right. I've been to about maybe 15 or so in my life. I remember one lady in the beginning who was pretty good and helped get me through my eating disorder. Most of these people have their own issues which is often why they go into the psychology field in the first place. It's like you have to kind of take what you can get from them and not expect too much but, yea, what you are describing sounds like you should move on to someone else. Good luck.
P.S. I come here to talk. It's often more helpful than a counselling session.
Lyla719589
Lyla719589
It sounds like you did the right thing by removing yourself from this support group because of leadership. Although, group leaders are human and suffer just like everyone else, their role is to allow others to feel safe and open to guidance within the group. I believe that if your mental health feels compromised because a leader is projecting their feelings on to you, its best to find someone better for your need at this time. Don't ever feel bad for choosing what is right for you and your healing! I wish you the very best!