wow, did you just describe my life? sorry this is happening to you too sweetie *hugz*

i can be crying and sobbing, and it seems i am not even there to them at that moment. the best thing that could happen is to hold me while i let it out... that's all. how hard is that?

i know hun, i know exactly how you feel, why cant people be more compassionate? especially our own family!

Sadly there is nothing you can do to MAKE them understand and support. One thing I have learned in my dealing with my co-dependency is the only person who's actions we can control are our own. As much as we may need the support they have to give, continuing to beat our heads against their wall to get it will only hinder our own progress.

As much as it hurts, taking a step back from the situation for now and focus on your own healing. It may be harder without their support, but it will be MUCH easier than killing yourself trying to get it.

i had a friend once who told me our friendship was over if i didn't stop it... (talking to her with how i felt). needless to say, we aren't really friends anymore.

i agree with you hopeful.. but i think i have stepped so far into myself that i am even more lost - and now more hesitant than ever to try to talk with anyone about anything.

Do you see a professional?

no, i don't really have the money to. i make to much money to get financial support, yet i am too broke to afford it. i think i am kind of scared of it too.

I don't think they know how to help, even if we tell them! They can just be told to suck it up or deal on their own and it works for them so I think they think it should work for us too. I tell them I know you can't solve my problems just show me love and listen then I can help myself. I think they want to get us to just snap out of it (like they can). Wish we could! My Mom is the worst she just says quit whining and suck it up! Yea that helps! or blames me for getting into any and all situations. The bad ecomomy and real estate market is all my fault did you all know that

Just know you aren't alone. Every single one of us is here from you. We won't give up or tell you that you need to get over it.

If it was that easy, none of us would be here.

One thing I finally had to come to terms with was the fact that, as much as we may need the support of family and friends, they really aren't obligated to Understand. It's not in the rule book. And of course, if they can't understand, how supportive can they be? Only others who have suffered as we have, and recovered enough to be able to help, can give the support we need (and yeah, the kick in the ass we sometimes need too! ;-)

Awesome POV Deekay!