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Imlosingit
Imlosingit

Hope noone minds if I just talk some?  I'm having this stuck feeling today, I was so good yesterday. I made a list last night for today. Well it's more than halfway through the day and I checked off just one. Every time I get up to go do something, I feel like I have this all over heavy like weight on me, more snugish in the chest. My brain jams up thinking of the to do things, and the later it gets, the more I feel guilty that I haven't done anything but watch TV and look up things on my iPad. It's beautiful outside, one would think that would inspire me to go out. Nope. I'm home alone today, maybe that's some of it? Calling someone when I get like this, a lot of times makes my head mess up worse. I know there's a reason in there somewhere just can't think of it. I'm trying to see if, by my "saying, writing it out to the group, that I could talk myself into doing something. Like maybe Break the to do list down into smaller pieces.Like Laundry: wash, dry, fold, bring upstairs, put away.  Am I being lazy by coming up with some kind of excuse to not do something? I want and "need" to have these things done. I would be happy to have them done. So why aren't I doing them?  Well, there it is, my thoughts of the day.  Have a good day. 

whatdoimakethis
whatdoimakethis
I don't think you are being lazy at all. It can be really hard to do "simple" tasks. Maybe think of them as goals instead, that way if you don't finish it today, it is just a goal you are still working to achieve. You could also set limits on yourself, like "on the next commercial break I'm going to go and start the laundry" or "at 1 o'clock I'm going to turn the ipad off and do 3 things on the list." You could also tell someone so that they can hold you accountable and check in on your progress.
Remiah
Remiah
Hello Im,'

It's not so bad that you tried to use a list (pat on the back!) What the matter may be or a good reason for this thing is that women most often try to be in two places at the same time. I know that I do. I have my own "rub salt in the wounds" days. I will leave you with a quote, a wise one too:

"The things we fear (pain, failure, disgrace, rejection, limitations) are ultimately some of our finest teachers, educating us in compassion, grace, wisdom, and understanding." ~Patsy Clairmont~

Please don't brittle away and break too easily. You are human and stable as long as you don't refuse to keep trying. I admire your effort.

Great day to you!
Imlosingit
Imlosingit
Whatdoi, thanks for the goal idea, and the calling someone to have them check on my progress. I have little discipline on setting time limits for myself. So the call some idea could work there.
Remiah, thanks for the quote, it’s so true as long as you keep your mind open to it.
And yeah, unfortunately we can’t be in two places at the same time, no matter how hard we try. I think I need to lower my expectations of what I think I “should” be able to do in one day, maybe that way I can take anything past that as a bonus. I’m big on, “if there’s a will, there is a way.” I may not find it on my first, second or third try, but I also have persistence down in spades, (that God put in the back of my head), even when I feel broken, too tired to deal with anything and I want to call it quits.
Thanks for all your kind words. They mean a lot .
Remiah
Remiah
...it's such a pleasure to chat with you today. Your words are healing me as well :-) God is with us.
Imlosingit
Imlosingit
Remaih, I’m glad we can help heal each other. I believe God sends us to places and people when we need them. :-)
lovegrace307
lovegrace307
There’s nothing wrong with having a “stuck” day lay in bed watch Netflix look up things on your iPad don’t force yourself we all need those days it’s our body telling us to relax. Eventually you’ll be able to get up and do more not to mention we’re in a pandemic there’s not much going on take this time to relax
upstatenyredsoxfan
upstatenyredsoxfan
I too feel this way. It’s a great day out, yet I’m inside. Heck, I haven’t even changed out of my pajamas. Sure, I’m doing some of work - I’m a school teacher and the year is winding down but I feel I should be outside accomplishing some of the chores that need to be done outside. Hang in there.
Imlosingit
Imlosingit
Lovegrase and upstate, thanks for making me feel, I’m not alone in the Netflix, iPad, couch day. And not getting outside when it’s so nice out. Pajama day! :-). I have got my butt up and started the lovely chore of laundry and cat food shopping for 3 finicky cats. One is 17 and has renal insufficiency. I’m worried about him. Vet has recommended under the skin fluid treatments, every 5days. I’m doing it, even if I have to go to the vet. Trying to do it myself didn’t go so well. That hasn’t been helping my moods either.