Yes I’m one with clinical depression that makes me dizzy to contemplate it. As there are support groups for vitually everything there groups for specific support such as you describe. If there isn’t one here already you can create one specific to being that support person. Either way this is a gr8 spot to safely vent your feelings. Unwind and let go, caregivers deserve that healthy place to go.

Sorry for what you are going through. Sometimes the other spouse needs to get some counseling or therapy so they can cope .

Currently in counseling together , was in alone but he wanted me to quit going to that particular one. I️ have in and now just looking for my own place to vent. I️ feel for anyone living with depression if any kind but there is medication and help for it. Unfortunately my husband refuses to take his.

Ahh and there in lies the problem his refusal to recognize his clinical depression as needing medication to help. No shame in it and we all need a little help now and again. Pity those poor souls who have lived with depression in the not to distant past that had none of the helpful meds are out there. On his therapy yes co-therapy has benefits as does individual, I would advise both if available.

So frustrating as you can see. He has a filled prescription from years ago and current one to get filled just sitting in a drawer. Was hospital last year for not eating. How do I️ support someone who doesn’t want to help himself.

You have to decide what is your breaking point. Sometimes there is just so much you can do. If he is not willing to take meds, than it is extremely difficult situation to be in. Have you thought of a mental hospital. I really cannot advise. What about going to a church. They are good listeners and may offer you advise or support. Sometimes you need to help yourself. Hope this helps......Will keep you in my prayers CarolAnne

I'm a terrible person. I like power to be balanced. I had my daughter and her boyfriend here, and he was autistic and kept playing the autism card, and then she started playing the autism card...

So i started too.

We all have needs and that includes me!

If you are not part of the problem, ie you're not some giant asshole (don't seem to be) then you need to fold her actions back in on her. Too many women whine as a general way of being. A kind of a social habit. It's not okay.

Depression is a set of feelings not a set of actions. I tell people this all the time. It's a burden we carry but we can still stand up straight underneath it if we have the balls. People can make some of our burden go away if they are in a position to do so, but no guarantees. In the end, depression is our own growth challenge and we have to front up to it.

Love your comment about depression being a set of feelings not actions !!!! Very powerful statement. Sorry for what you are going through.

There is a lot to depression and yes, it can turn into actions. What you think you speak, and then act. Depression can paralyze and steal every effort of being normal and sane. There can be times, especially when unmedicated, when your thoughts and not only negative but racing, leading to suicidal thoughts. Times when one feels like they have no worth or anything to offer the world, and in turn take poor care of themselves or deny help.

As the spouse and caretaker, yes, you may be at your limit. I encourage you to get the help you need. Whether it is a church, counselor, friends, exercise, etc, you are not built to handle this on your own. Praying strength, guidance and wisdom for you.

Thank you. I’m doing all of the above.