report her to Social Services.

We have. They said something about proof, which my sister provided in the guise of photos but still nothing gets done.
What actually needs to happen is custody needs to change to my borther in law.

Then do what you have to do mate. If anyone abused my 2 year old, I'd kill them.

I dont really want the violence. I'd rather settle this with some maturity and dignity but how do you reach that with an irrational human being?

I've never been violent to anyone, had a childhood of abuse.
The only route is by making repeated demands on Social services.
A photograph isn't enough, I'd talk to my local MP if I wasn't getting anywhere.

And some mothers are in-capable of even raising their own children...My brothers Ex...is a fat lazy F**KING worthless B**CH....She lives in a F**KING day care with the kids and basically the day care provider takes care of my nephews....Well...My brother told his EX....Their day care provider isn't their mother....THEY DO NOT HAVE TO LISTEN TO HER...YOU ARE THE MOM START FUCKING BEING ONE...and when you get your taxes...F**K the new vehicle....get a place for you and the kids to live in....You see....I have to literally bite my toungue each time I am around my nephews mother....I have no F**KING respect for this B**CH at all and never will.......I AM SO SORRY FOR VENTING....I NEEDED TO GET IT OUT...

Obeylix, I applaud you for getting involved. What you do to help this child will make a huge difference in this child's life. Drug abuse, as you state, "coke head," leads to neglect and abuse. It seems like she's not capable of making good parenting decisions which puts this child in dangerous situations.

I looked in your area for help; for you to get involved. I copied and pasted this the following:

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Obeylix....my hats off to you....I have also been in the same situation....many many times in the past....DRUG ABUSE NEGLECTED CHILDREN....It's so F**KING sad.....I am happy you made a good choice and took action.

I would keep calling CPS until someone listens. I would also call my brother-in-law and put a bug in his ear about custody. I know your in a spot. IF you dare to say something to her directly she just may take your access to the kids away. That would be horrible, they need all the love they can get.

ps....you could call the police when you know she has cocaine in the house. That would put her out of the picture for awhile. I have no sympathy for people who don't care and abuse their children.

CPS and Social Services here in Oregon are a F**KING JOKE.....You think with all the shit my brother filed on his EX.....they would get off their asses and investigate.....W.T.F.....?

Thank you, it is all very helpful. Lois is a nice little boy but the unfair circumstance he finds himself in means he lashes out and causes 'trouble', which is nothing more than a cry for attention.
The mother is an idiot and is only causing trouble because my Brother in law is happy and expecting his 2nd with my sister. He does all he can for that little boy but sadly he is scared by the media. he doent believe he would win custody because he is only the father.

It makes me angry, I grew up in an abusive household so i see what the little lad is feeling, its all very real to me.
I will have to talk to my sister about all this. She is nearly ready to give birth to her second, so this stress and abuse is making her ill.

Here in Oregon Obeylix....They strongly favor the mother....Unless she is abusive and on drugs....

I live in Canada and don't understand our system. I babysat a 3 year old who's mother took care of him, then I found out she also had a 7 year old she left home alone and didn't feed him. His teeth were all turning black and he started showing up at my apartment asking me for food. I would always feed and started packing a lunch for him to take to school. I called to report her and they asked me if I could prove he was home alone and I said send an officer there right now, he is home alone, and they didn't. They also told me to prove he wasn't being fed! I felt so bad for that little boy, he really was a very sweet kid, a year later I saw him out on the streets with bigger kids destroying property and then shortly after that they moved away.

that's really sad and must be hard for you to witness. like zaza said, keep calling social services, and if she has coke in the house call authorities...the opportunity is bound to come up or for her to get in legal trouble, then ur brother can get custody. sad to say, but hopefully she gets in trouble or winds up in rehab.

Most people do the best they can. When one knows better they do better.