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So totally lost!!

sunni185
sunni185
My husband has been diagnosed, bi-polar with psycosis(meaning he's paranoid with delusions). I don't think I will eever get that beautiful person back. I have now lost him, to this disease and I feel as though I'm grieving. We can't be together now because it's too dangerous for our grandchild as well as myself. This is the love of my life, I thought about taking a bottle of blood pressure medicine last night, because I don't want to live without him. We are both older and were lucky to find each other 10 years ago, our relationship was one of the rare ones, so much love, What am I going to do and how will I survive this?
Juice
Juice
First, don't think about taking anything taking your life; think about your grandchild and all the joy you share, how lost she would be without you.

Second, you're right, you do need to grieve. We grieve in the same way for lost dreams as we would a death. You have had your future irrevocably changed, your dreams shattered and you need time to absorb that.

The earlier psychosis is treated the better the chance of controlling it with medication. Bipolar with psychosis has a much better prognosis than schizophrenia with psychosis. I would imagine that as his diagnosis is new his doctors will be trying out drug regimes for the best control of his symptoms.

I'm sorry for what you have lost; true love is a precious thing. ((Gentle Hugs))
deleted_user
deleted_user
We have a few Bpeer as well as some schizoaffectives.here you may get some grief from the post the way you have written it. But the BP board would be the best board to educate you on it http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Bipolar-Disorder/support-group

A Psychosis is difficult to watch someone go through and trust me no fun to go through either...but not necessarily a life time sentence. In most cases only a short period of time. It all can be manged with meds and therapy and support but it takes times.. Just as depression can. If he is a danger to himself or society then a hospitalization can be forced by you. his spouse... You haven't lost him...The BP (mood swings) Chances are he always been like this. But has only just been diagnosed..

The only real advice is to look after your mental health first. Which is in question I think you need someone to really talk to about it all..
Maybe going in with his doctor to get your questions answered....
deleted_user
deleted_user
My mother is manic depressive, bipolar, with some other mental health issues. It's become extremely hard to deal with her outbursts and emotional episodes over the years, I know it feels like you've lost the person in a way because I've grieved for her in the same way as you with your husband. I feel as though I've lost my mother as well, and the best advice I think I can give you is to keep moving forward and remember that your happiness has to come first at this point. Still show him you care and that you're there for him and his disease because that's the most important thing you can do for him. But as for you, look at what has been keeping you going these past few years and really focus on what is going to make you happy. Hope this helps.
sunni185
sunni185
I want to thank you all for letting me know, I don't have to face this alone. Even people in my family want to avoid the subject. Either that are they become arm chair psyciatrists.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I thought of this you tube clip when I read your reply http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dFdYqRuqKDM&list=FLk5Dn9GuKAdoSuLffWlf0Iw&index=1&feature=plpp_video
gramybear
gramybear
First of all, you need to take care of YOU, because not only are you important, but there are people in your life that know you are important too. Is there medication that your husband can go on so he can be the same man you met 10 years ago? I can't even imagine the pain you are feeling and wish I had all the right answers for you. I feel helpless, to help you. You are going to be in my thoughts and prayers hon.