The advice I can give you-- do not ever date someone because you are lonely. I have been single for over three years-- going on four-- its horrible, but what is worse is by being used by people who see that you are trying to find someone and that you are vulnerable. Thats all I can say.

I'm with sabishii on this...I'd rather be alone than turn to someone who'll use my loneliness against me. Plus this has been a good time for me to learn how to live with just ME. I needed that. When it's time for me to welcome someone else in again, I'll know. But they'd better get it straight...I will not give up who I am for them.

I would say maybe your dealing with some low self esteem. don't depend on a guy to make you feel good about yourself. you can learn to feel good about you without one.

How can we feel so lonely when there are so many people around us; friends, family and peers yet we can get so lonely.

Another person cannot prevent me from feeling lonely, but my inner emptiness can be satisfied. When I can come to value my own company, and become my own worthwhile
Companion.

I spend more time with myself than with anyone else. Wouldnt it make sense to put some energy into making that relationship as fulfilling as possible?

One of my illusions has been that only another person can fill that empty place within me. Example; if only they were with me now, If only they were more attentive now, I wouldnt be so lonely but I remain lonely even if after these conditions were met.

Feeling alone and lonely increases our fears of inadequacy. In our alienation from others, paranoia grips us. We yearn to feel connected with someone, we need a sense of belonging, every one of us; belonging to the neighborhood; belonging to our team of coworkers; belonging to DS the group we call friends. Knowing that we do belong gives us an inner peace, warmth that comes with security, well being that we belong to something helps eliminate or fears and feelings of emptiness.

We need to be conscious of our judgments of others, be they verbalized in gossip or only Held by our silence. These judgments act as a measure of our own self-image. Our security in knowing we belong, that we are one, relieves us of the need to gossip or judge others unfairly. Real closeness will come when I can talk about myself rather than anyone else.

When I stop expecting others to meet all my needs I will search for new ways to enjoy my own friendship. And when I do get lonely, I have the comfort and support from my DS friends, myself, God who never leaves me.

I will work on building a special relationship with myself and hope to discover how un-lonely being alone can be.

I am sorry you are frustrated. All I can think to say is just be active. Do things with groups, get in clubs, volunteer, just be with people.

And hang in there! And if the height thing gets to you, just tell them you are 5' 13".

6'1 is hot... so you scare the scared... fu@k em.. ever thought about becoming a runway model.. its definitely not a 5'4 position..

Well, first of all, I think you are a very pretty lady, and whether you are 6 feet, 2 feet, purple, fat, skinny or striped, will not matter to a true friend. I have found it best to start as friends with a guy before moving forward. Please don't feel desparate. Desparation often makes us settle for someone who may not be good for us. Have you ever tried a dating service? Perhaps a friend of a friend? Someone at work? I bet you are looking so hard that you are missing someone who may be right under your nose, so to speak. Please don't let the lack of a man in your life lower you self esteem. Until you find a man friend, rely on your girlfriends . Go out, have fun. Live every day to it's fullest! Wishing you all the best! xxx

most of the time, its because youre not in the right place at the right time. has nothing to do with you, just luck. if you were around more people, they would love you.

--3 years alone. i moved, and just never made friends or a relationship here.

i'm going through exactly the same thing. except that i'm not tall (you're pretty). i'm fat. and that's exactly how long i've been single, too.

here's the painful truth:

before you start loving yourself, it's gonna be hard to find someone who loves you back. people can sniff out a low self-esteem from miles away. men are attracted to women who are happy about themselves.

when we're happy with ourselves and our life...we send out good vibes to people. but if we're miserable, people are going to sense it.

so i guess its gonna be hard to simply wait for a boyfriend to be happy. you have to be happy first. then you'll be more attractive.