This is difficult situation honey and its not your mums fault shes ill or your fault you feel this way, you need to talk to her about how your feeling

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Im sorry you are feeling so down right now. I know dealing with parents are rough especially when you have issues of your own to deal with. Hang in there hun. Im here for you. HUGS

I agree, sit down and talk with her. Tell her how you are feeling and what's going on with you. You don't have to say it harsh or anything just explain it to her. It can't be easy for her or you, but trust me. I have chronic pain and it is so damn hard, and I feel so guilty 99% b/c of my children..I wonder if your mom does too? It won't hurt to talk to her and it may even help. Big hugs to you.

are you my daughter? Oh honey, I am so sorry chronic illness just takes over a home and make it suck for everyone involved. I hope you know the difference in despising your mom's illness and despising your mom. The one thing worse than having a chronic illness is seeing how it affects my child. Mom knows it sucks, it sucks for her too.

im going through the same thing, except its my dad thats ill...

She is in pain...I don't know her illness, but do YOU spend much time in pain? chronic pain?

It is quite debilitating, and very hard on the psyche. It fucks with your head until you feel angry and crazy yourself. especially when it never stops.

Perhaps it is a good idea for you to find some other place to be.....that way when your Mom is feeling mean or unhappy in whatever way, you won't be there.

oh, and for those of you that suffer depression with some type of chronic illness, I invite you to join Slightly Cracked, it is where we try to help each other live and ineract with out families a little more positive. Family members are welcome, so if you'd like to explain to our group how your feeling sweety and get some input before you talk to mom, PLEASE feel welcome, vent to us how you feel, it may help us both. Help us cp'ers see the child side, and your can get some positive feedback that may help you with mom.

I know how hard it must have been for you to even write this. I applaud you for just getting out your feelings. Do not be ashamed of your feelings. I know you do the best you can with your Mom and this is just venting the inevitablke frustration you feel. Hang in there - it will get better. And keep talking - it's the best way to heal! Hugs!

When we are depressed the little things can really annoy us the trouble is we only have one Mum and when they are sick their behaviour and attitudes are distorted.

Some day she will be gone and you will regret and feel guilty about the way you felt about her.

It is kind of like a dog you have had and loved for years your best friend then it get injured and that same dog snaps at you and is very irritable and restless.

Try and think about it this way your Mum could be very scarred and full of fear not to mention depressed.

Try and be patient and compassionate as possible and let the annoying and irritable things go in one ear and out the other try not to hate the person hate the illness I know it can be so frustrating but show as much love as possible you know what it feels like to be ill sometimes it hard to
accept when a family member is ill and expect to much from them.


They tell me God wants you to forgive any one who has hurt me I say forgive them I want get revenge, my attitude was if there was a God why would he let bad things happen Abuse, Rape, Murder, Sexual Abuse, Mental & Physical Abuse Death of the Young!

I have discovered holding resentments against those who hurt us embarrass or rejected us blocks our healing path. We can ask our selves what is the purpose of hanging on to these feelings serves. Perhaps it is a way of retaliation, our way of punishing the ones that harmed us when in reality it is hurting us the people that hurt us feel nothing no pain.

We get addicted to holding grudges we get emotional satisfaction from them we think we need them maybe we harbor old hurts because we feel sorry for ourselves we think we need them. We dont want to let go. We even may be afraid if we let them go, there will be nothing else left of us empty; it has been in our lives as long as we can remember.

Resentments poison most of waking hours and possibly our sleeping hours with the weight of burden almost like we are carrying the Whole World on our shoulders always.

When our thoughts are full of bitterness, fear, self-pity and revenge we feel so much pain.

Carrying a chip on our shoulder that feels like a boulder it weighs us down, eats away at us and keeps us stuck in misery and defeat we cant erase it, or press the delete key.

I dont deny that hurtful things were said or done but I refuse to carry the burdens of bitterness any further I am so tired of carrying the weight day in day out year in year out.

I will not allow the old resentments to drag me down any lower any longer it hurts me.

Forgiving is not forgetting it is letting go for our benefit not for their benefit of them!
I am willing enough to admit that the resentments are holding me back I want to get rid of them because they stops me experiencing any happiness or joy. I have to let them go

Forgiving others for there wrongs they commit is the ultimate act of self-love because it rids us of hurt, pain and frees us of the emotional and physical harms by letting go we set ourselves free.

Acts of forgiveness is done for US, not for someone else. We can set ourselves free by forgiving the wrongdoers and ourselves and releasing resentments one by one. Then and only then can we start the healing process and rise from the misery and hurt.

when she's gone, you'll see things differently.