Depression Support Group

Depression is a real and debilitating condition that is often misunderstood by family and friends. Its meaning can range from a prolonged period of sadness to an actual mental illness with specific symptoms. Find and share experiences with others who are going through the same struggles.

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mom-of-3 12/03/2007

My son, 16, has been instant messaging his friends on-line (we have access to his IM's) that he is very depressed. Four days from now he will be entering rehab and is extremely upset about it. He doesn't want to lose touch with his friends because he will not be allowed to communicate with them at all while in there. He told his friends that he is so depressed that he is contemplating suicide. I understand you are supposed to take any threat seriously but I don't know what to do. He will not admit it to us that he's depressed. I know he won't. I just don't know if this depression is a temporary thing coming off a drug and then it goes away. Many of you probably don't know the answer to this because this is not the drug site, but I thought if any of you have tried drugs and found yourself depressed coming off a drug ...if it's short lived or does it last for a long time?

deleted_user 12/03/2007

He is probably scared to death. BEing depressed would be a normal response. If you are worried that he will do something make sure he is monitored a lot during these next few days. Another hard thing he is going to learn is that to be clean he must change his playgrounds and playmates and that may be hard for him to accept at his age. He can't hang out with using friends in places where he use to use or he will be right back on the same destructive path. Good Luck with everything!

deleted_user 12/03/2007

what drugs are you talking about

deleted_user 12/03/2007

Mom
My suggestion is not to take chances with your child.. that is your baby and what whould you do if you did not take it serious and he really did do it.. you never know when a kid is serious about something.. or when that kid might take or do something and think it is not as serious as it really is and then it is to late.. however, you are his mother and you will like anyother mother have that motherly instinct.. what is it telling you...

deleted_user 12/03/2007

my son just got out of rehab less than a month ago. so my prayers and best wishes go out to you there. as far as your question, what was he taking? this could play an important role in how he is feeling now. did he have any signs of depression before he started using?

deleted_user 12/03/2007

What is his drug of choice...depression goes hand in hand with drug use....there is a cycle that happens...

deleted_user 12/03/2007

Im 17 and I have to stop doing drugs and drinking, and I'm even more depressed than I've ever been...but I can't tell you how long it lasts....I can say that it is the hardest thing to get over, and I have thoughts of suicide just cuz I can't smoke or whatever.

deleted_user 12/03/2007

I would call the rehab..and let them know what you know...and ask for their guidance....

ZAZAS 12/03/2007

yep, his has to end his relationship with his using buddies for ever. But, don't tell him this right now. It's the absence of drugs enhancing his depression, he has lost his best friend. Just watch him closely and be sure you tell the rehab staff when he checks in so they can help him deal with those feelings.

deleted_user 12/03/2007

I'm with Windstream...and call the experts...

mom-of-3 12/03/2007

I know his drug of choice is pot but he's taken ecstasy, coke, mushrooms, alcohol, acid, and some others his drug counselor added. He just posted some more info., saying that he was drunk and cried for two hours. I know he's down because of where he has to go. He has a dr. appt. tomorrow, I guess I will have to ask the doctor to ask him how he's feeling. I just hope he's up front with him , if he still is. I doubt that he's had any depression issues before. Our middle son had depression and I am pretty aware of the signs.

ZAZAS 12/03/2007

What was your son taking, if you don't mind, I do know tht crack is a very psychologically dependant drug. You go threw more mental withdrawal than physical.

deleted_user 12/03/2007

To quote Matisyahu " If your trying to stay high, your bound to stay low.."

It is time your son wakes up. It is time we all wake up.

Maybe he will stop being depressed after he stops the drugs but maybe not. The drugs and drink will distract you from the beautiful truth.
But the drugs, the depression, they are only symptoms of the real problem. We are not this mind, we are not this body, we are so much more. Take control away from the ego and surrender to the truth inside. Sell all you have and let life flow. Yes, it is time we all wake up. Love you.

http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=9EBiei21-C8&feature=related

http://www.metrolyrics.com/king-without-a-crown-lyrics-matisyahu.html

deleted_user 12/03/2007

I'm glad he has an appointment tomorrow...It sounds like he doesn't want to leave his old lifestyle and friends...but being just 16 it is such a critical time in his life....He probably knows alittle of what is ahead for him.....but please don't be silent...and get him where he needs to go....

deleted_user 12/03/2007

with understanding and love...

deleted_user 12/03/2007

I use to work at a outpatient rehab...and we would do groups for the group homes...for the kids that had drug/alcohol issues....and I always found that love and compassion worked the best....on an individual basis...

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