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Hi all,
I got out of a two month relationship in January. It was extremely intense....he had a lot of baggage..a four year old kid, an ex wife, went to rehab after his divorce, he smoked and drank constantly and had anger issues. I accepted him anyway and fell in love with him the moment I talked to him. A month in I confessed my love for him and he said it back, and then continued to say it to me without me instigating it. He then started talking about me moving in, meeting his child, his entire family, and told me he wanted to marry me. Things crashed and burned quickly. I got too attached and he tossed me aside one day telling me he couldn't handle it, he never loved me or meant any of the things he said to me and tried to convince me I was insane, especially for telling someone I loved them after a month. He completely broke my heart.
two months later he slept with me....and then never spoke to me again. When I tried to contact him and win him back, apologizing for everything, telling him how I had changed, he ignored my texts and I later found out he told his friends to go date me so that I never tried to bother him again.
my relationship ended in January but I have been a mess over it ever since. Every day it haunts me and I am in so much pain. Everyone I have dated since I have compared to him, I have cried almost every day...and these last few days have been especially hard. I haven't gotten out of bed at all for two days and have been binge eating. I feel like all of the life has been sucked out of me. I have no trust in anyone and feel completely disillusioned by love. I believed this man was perfect, my soul mate, and that we had this intense passion that couldn't be touched by anyone. He hurt me so much in the way he threw me away and made me feel like I destroyed our entire relationship....i don't know what to do anymore. I wish this pain could just go away. I wish I never met him
I got out of a two month relationship in January. It was extremely intense....he had a lot of baggage..a four year old kid, an ex wife, went to rehab after his divorce, he smoked and drank constantly and had anger issues. I accepted him anyway and fell in love with him the moment I talked to him. A month in I confessed my love for him and he said it back, and then continued to say it to me without me instigating it. He then started talking about me moving in, meeting his child, his entire family, and told me he wanted to marry me. Things crashed and burned quickly. I got too attached and he tossed me aside one day telling me he couldn't handle it, he never loved me or meant any of the things he said to me and tried to convince me I was insane, especially for telling someone I loved them after a month. He completely broke my heart.
two months later he slept with me....and then never spoke to me again. When I tried to contact him and win him back, apologizing for everything, telling him how I had changed, he ignored my texts and I later found out he told his friends to go date me so that I never tried to bother him again.
my relationship ended in January but I have been a mess over it ever since. Every day it haunts me and I am in so much pain. Everyone I have dated since I have compared to him, I have cried almost every day...and these last few days have been especially hard. I haven't gotten out of bed at all for two days and have been binge eating. I feel like all of the life has been sucked out of me. I have no trust in anyone and feel completely disillusioned by love. I believed this man was perfect, my soul mate, and that we had this intense passion that couldn't be touched by anyone. He hurt me so much in the way he threw me away and made me feel like I destroyed our entire relationship....i don't know what to do anymore. I wish this pain could just go away. I wish I never met him
sure, theres the lucky few who find their true love on the first try, but thats so rare they have to make up stories about it
its natural and it happens to us all... but somehow we find the will to pick up the pieces and move on, and you will too, when youre ready
but parts of the relationship might always haunt you in some small way too... my ex turned the one christmas song i used to like into the one i simply cannot stand to hear anymore, just for instance...
but dont worry, when youre ready, you'll come out of it...
how long do you want a man thats that horrible to hurt you anyway? at least he showed you his true colors before you got in any deeper
i really am sorry that you feel this way tho... i hope something i said helped, but i kinda doubt it will... sorry for that too
*hugs*
I wish you feel better soon. I agree with Vallonzek. What you are experiencing regarding the relationship you mention is it part of growing up and becoming wise. With some action on your part of keeping on living a healthy life and time you will feel better.
Let me share with you what Lincoln said about feel down.
"Remember in the depth and even the agony of despondency, that very shortly you are to feel well again." Abraham Lincoln
If you need someone to listen to you, I have a shoulder to cry on and an ear to listen to you.
Best wishes and Hugs
-Victorious