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NeedAdvice2013 03/27/2013

I got fired, unjustly, from my job! I have been working for almost 30 years and never been fired, it was all a set up. I was lied on by a subordinate and the owner of the company believed them, although I had documentation which proved differently. I thought about legal action, but as you know, companies have more money and resources than we do. I have some health issues and I am losing my hair--along with my mind.....For years I tried to build a "buff" phjysique...worked out, took supplements, but my genetics would not allow it to happen...so frustrating! I have been to 14 therapists/counsellors/psychiatrists--they got richer, I got poreer. I turned to this forum, as there are real people who have been thru or know what I feel like. To top it off, I learned that my fiancee' has been cheating on me for 3 years! I want to end the relationship, but she has all this stuff at my house-plus she has "career criminals" in her family and I am concerned about that.I feel so terrible....I have thought of just "checking out"....for good!

Any advice, suggestions, encouragement, etc. is appreciated and welcomed. Maybe someone else has been through some of my MANY problems.

RevDenny 03/27/2013

Stop by the local sheriffs office and explain your dilemma at home with the GF. They can guide you in that respect. As for the work thing there is little you can do unless another employee will vouch for you to the owner.

charliegirl29 03/27/2013

I have not really been in your position as I have been fired once in the past and it was warranted but if you have all the documentation to prove you were unjustly fired then maybe you should seek the advice of an attorney and see what your odds are of going to court and benefit from doing it in any way. The physical part of the equation. Unfortunately...not all of us are blessed with the genes that we desire so we must learn to love ourselves as we are some how some way.....love the skin you are in and on the losing hair...there is a starting company that now uses their bald heads for advertisement :-)...love the skin you are in .....relationship adive? I dont know why you are worried about the "career criminals"....but it sounds like something I would seperate myself completely from in order to keep my sanity :-) take care

deleted_user 03/27/2013

Sounds like there are definitely some actions you can take and probably at least un employment. I have heard of many people, some family, that have been fired for ridiculous reasons in the past couple years such as 'suspected theft' Suspected? What's that mean, something came up missing and no one owned it or they just wanted someone gone and zap.. they're gone. At any rate I hope you find a way to fight back. hugs

deleted_user 03/27/2013

I know what it's like to loose a job after long time employment. I was told it was basic economics, they could hire someone for half my salary to do the job, Lost a lot of faith in the whole "loyal to your employer thing" I now look out for me first. It sounds like you would have been let go no matter what and that this was just an excuse.

Take a deep breath, sit with a friend you know and write out a base resume, work on it every other day for a week, then start submitting for other jobs. also file for unemployment, to tide you over. 30 years is a great amount of experience, it sounds like you should be able to find a position soon.

Health issues are part of growing older, we all fight it, some better then others.
I 'm not sure how you 'learned' she was cheating, but i would talk to her first, find out whats going on, before making a decision. Evaluate where you are , then deicide on weather your relationship is worth spending the 4.50 to change the locks. You can arrange for her to move her stuff out on a sat or sunday all at one time.

deleted_user 03/27/2013

This is heart-breaking to hear.
After 30 years of being in a job I would definitely at least try to submit the proof you have!
If you want out of the relationship with your finacee then do it. Who cares about all that stuff and the "career criminals"?
What makes you think you are not good-looking enough in that you feel the need to take supplements and work out? You are who you are. Getting into shape and being healthy is good but to not be comfortable with how you look overall is not healthy. Everyone has something that they would like to change with themselves so you are not alone. But just know that you do need to be happy with yourself and with the way that you look. Every one of us has beauty inside and outside of us.

deleted_user 04/02/2013

I just came back on the site since I joined a while ago and wanted to check this post.

NeedAdvice, I hope you are ok. Please let us know if you are.

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