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The Serenity Prayer of Reinhold Niebuhr* was used from about 1934 Serenity Prayer - God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot (beliefnet.com). Although written in the style of a prayer, I do not think the relevance of the first half is confined to believers. The first few lines in particular, can, with some adaptation, apply to many situations:
'God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can; and the wisdom to know the difference.'
I have found it offers me a useful form of psychological counselling, a useful continuation of that I was offered soon after my life - physical and mental - was ruined by a spinal injury.
Posts from distressed readers about unrequited relationships are, sadly, all-too-common; posts from members searching for what they regard as an ideal but where imagination has slipped over the boundary into fantasy: some appear to have lost the serenity to accept the things they cannot change.
Whilst imagination can be a powerful addition to the five senses - sight, touch, smell, taste and sound - in achieving stimulation, fantasy is unlikely to be achievable. Some posts reflect a search for an ideal partner. They fantasise about partners they are not likely to find and appear to reject what is achievable.
Is fantasy always something to be avoided? I believe that in some situations, it is likely to cause distress if we expect it to happen: if we keep our feet on the ground and remember this, perhaps it is harmless imagination rather than fantasy. There are other situations where fantasy could provide harmless consolation - terminal illness or bereavement for example. In drawing this distinction between imagination and fantasy, perhaps I am searching for universal applications where none exists.
Those with chronic conditions might find the section after the opening sentence useful:
'Living one day at a time; enjoying one moment at a time; accepting hardships as the pathway to peace; ....'.
I find it best not to think too much of the future but others might differ.
I feel sure that the Serenity Prayer will offer guidance to some readers but I am unclear about how many. Do other readers have any observations to offer?
*Reinhold Niebuhr (1892–1971), American Reformed theologian, was a professor at Union Theological Seminary. He wrote and spoke frequently about the influences between religion, politics, and public policy, and has been influential on many US politicians.
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I invited Bill to have dinner with me last Sunday. He wasn't willing to drive 7 hours to mid Michigan and teased me with his beautiful ribs!!! So, of course I ate alone and had cedar salmon


I have that prayer on my Memorial Bench that I put out in country cemetery where my grandfather on Mom's side is buried as a family memorial for her since she is buried by my Dad and his family in another cemetery here in town....
I will have my ashes inside the memorial bench when I am dead and gone and I love having that prayer or really just the first half which we recite often in AA meetings on my memorial bench....
thanks for posting...