Im so sorry Wes, it sounds like you have both gone through some struggles together and were there for each other..its a shame she would leave because this guy professed his love while drunk. Jumping into another relationship doesn't always work out to well and she will be taking her issues into that relationship too. Are their children involved? Do you think she would consider getting counselling with you before she makes a decision to leave? Its very disrespectful to your marriage for her to be emotionally involved with this other guy. I hope you will ask her to consider talking to a marriage counsellor with her..you were there for her when she needed you and I hope you can salvage this marriage. Please keep us posted on how you are doing..((Hugs))

Let her go, she owes you nothing unless you have writen loan agreement. I dont half to live at bank to make my loan pymts.. she sure does'nt owe you her life.
Sounds like she hasnt been happy for awhile and she might maybe be the type that needs a safty net to fall bk on if something doesnt work out.
Stand bk and hear of her rebounding isnt healthy.
It is not cheating if your legally seprated, so what if she did or is, just let her make her own choises for her own self and for her own life. you know she doesnt need you to think for her.
People come & go and afew stay in our lives thoughout our lives, thats just life.
Did you leave your wife when you came across this one along the way ?
Rejection smarts and temporary stings but we move forward, that's life.

Now your free to focus on yourself and takeing care of yourself.

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Are you in therapy for your depression and are you on meds?

I'm sorry you are going through this. You don't need someone like her if she isn't willing to be there for you through your hardships when you were there for hers. It just isn't fair to you. Can you talk to her about marriage counseling, and maybe changing jobs? If she refuses then maybe it's time to go. Hugs, I hope things work out xo

This is really sad Wes & I do hope you two can work through this.

Maybe a trial separation is not a bad idea - it is what she wants right now. If she truly loves you, she will be back if you want to take her back.

I respect your opinion that she is emotionally cheating. If she is spending that much time with this other man & telling you that he has confessed his love for her, then yes, not good for your relationship.

Thanks for the comments and advice.

I've cooled off a bit since writing that, was about half hour after she told me..heh.

I really do think the relationship has run its course, I was married at 18, she 20. We were very young and ended up growing way far apart.

Next issue, is the finances and living arangments..bleh

Very sad Wes.... Sounds to me like she is falling for the new *romantic guy*. Its always fun to have someone *interested* in you and show you attention that you do not know... But she has to realize that down the road it will be the *same old stuff* just a different day.. Let her learn the hard way if she doesnt have enough respect for you to care about your feelings.. Just my opinion.. thebeast.

im going though something kinda like you are so i know what your going through, one thing i have learned throughout all this is, you cant make someone want to be with you no matter how hard you try. Maybe you need time apart, maybe if you do take time apart if will make things worse but either way things wont work out unless someone makes a move, Good luck!

Mr beast...you picked thoes words from the brain. Very well put.

my brain* not the brain..lol all hail the mighty brain!

The point about you being there for her when she had issues is well taken. It may, however, require a therapist to help her understand that point.

I am so sorry you are going through this.