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self hate

nightfire
nightfire

because of the crappy things ive done to my wife we are separated, its been 3 months, but because of those crappy things i have so much self hate, it really doesnt help my bad depression that ive had since i was 12, i feel like a monster for putting her through all that because im in love with her and adore her, i would give my life to spare hers, but i just dont know what to do, its like im on hold waiting to hear that she will give me a last opportunity to mend and heal things

skye808
skye808
This sounds like what I deal with when I spiral with my anxiety and say things I don’t mean because I feel crappy about myself.
I’m sure that she loves & cares for you,
Maybe she’s giving you the space you need to gather yourself.
Take this time to work on staying present and in the moment.
I know that’s deliberating, but try to.
Don’t have self-hate, everyone has their flaws and certain things we deal with.
It doesn’t make us less than.
Sending love your way.
Ghostdancer
Ghostdancer
Ground your emotions, remain in the here and now. It’s the only thing you can deal with for the moment and it’s easy. Sit down or stand up it works either way so be comfortable. Now look at your feet, they are in a defined safe space and you’re connected to them so obviously you’re safe as well. I know it sounds basic but the ability to be comfortable with oneself is tougher than it sounds but it’s at the core to being happy, satisfied and even more of a helpful contributing member of society. You get to know yourself and maybe even like yourself a bit more. Could be the key between you and her, and btw she has the same key cause that door swings both ways equally. Give it a try you’re in the here and now.....