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Self esteem getting lower

andi0828
andi0828

My self esteem has progressively become worse  over the past few years. It's never been very hight to begin with but getting ready to leave can easily ruin my day.  I can feel slightly ok and catch a glimpse of my slef and my mood just drops. My husband will make comments about getting me some lingerie but I just cringe because I know how I will feel. It's hurting my marriage. I'm content in wearing layers and even avoid him touching me so we don't have to have sex. I will try to make sure the lights are off or I try to cover myself if we do anything. I just want to feel ok and not constantly worry  and hate how I look.

Restful
Restful
I understand how you feel. I’m the same way. It’s not easy when we are our own worst enemy.
RiSober
RiSober
Self esteem issues, I have found in my own life, attack in the most vicious ways. But from what you wrote, and I admit that this is coming from a male perspective, and, I also admit, a dopey one at that, it sounds as if your husband is attracted to you, as in YOU. I do not wish to downplay the powerful self-esteem issues, which I did observe in females during my thirty years of teaching middle school. Thinking of you, and praying for you.
Deckard
Deckard
andi, I have the same issue. I am 47, I have had my encounters. Never any long term relationship where I am with a woman for years,.

Personally I just don't find myself attractive. I don't want to let myself be close to anyone. Nor do I feel that anyone would find me attractive. So I am posting to let you know, I also know how that feels (from a mans point of view) At least to me.
Tired
Tired
It would be helpful if you go to counseling or read books on the subject.
And work on feeling different than you do now.
dsf95
dsf95
Sex isn’t about how you look. It’s about connection and pleasure. You deserve to be happy
Anna1212
Anna1212
I agree with dsf. I don't think sex is about how you look either. Maybe do some nice self love things to make you feel a little better like scented bath or stretching out or some quiet meditation.
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