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doncornelius
doncornelius

This is an older post from a few weeks ago but maybe a new perspective will help. 



i feel like there isn’t enough time to help myself and fix all the problems around me. Not at the same time anyway. I know I have to step away from work and focus on myself but to many people depend on me. It’s like an endless cycle. No one is going to go homeless or hungry if I do so why can’t I just cut the string and let go. If I don’t the stress is going to kill me and I’m serious. On top of the depression and anxiety I have high blood pressure. I’ve eaten myself close to being diabetic cause food makes me feel better and not any food chocolate by the bag just to get a feeling of happiness. I have constant chest pains. I’m up to two packs of cigarettes a day I can’t even breathe. There’s times I hope I won’t wake up in the morning just to get away from it. I know it’s all because of work and I hate it. I don’t even like my job. I was kind of forced into it by my dying father. I think I held onto it so long just because of that. Meanwhile my partners have houses and cars and go on vacations. I can’t even go 45 min away without getting a call to come to work. I just feel like I’m at the end of the road and the only way I can see an out is jumping in front of that speeding truck. Metaphorically speaking that is

Rozza
Rozza
Find a new job n leave.. you shouldnt stay with all this negative impact from a place you go everyday.. instead of waking up to go to work, wake up and look for a new job.. why all this suffer from just a job? Its something in your hand let go n try a new job.
Bordinaryrad
Bordinaryrad
I struggled with a bad work environment too. Work may be "Just work" to some people, but it's a part of your life. Seems like you have identified that it's the biggest problem and what your focused on. Yup, I'd find somthing that takes a lot less from you and get to a place where you can focus on you and feeling happy.
Anna1212
Anna1212
i understand being up against it like that. it's awful. I use food too to cope and feel better and then it just backfires. I guess try to let something fall away, some responsibility, anything you feel you can cut back or out. I do that and sometimes it works. sometimes something seems like it's an absolutely have to do thing but maybe it isn't. you say no one is going to go homeless or hungry so why don't you cut the strings... why don't you? do you need the money? i'm not sure what is holding you to this particular job. if finding a new job right away is too much, maybe you could cut back on some smaller responsibilities you have to give yourself a little more time for yourself to take care of yourself. I don't know but when I read your post, I felt like I could have written it. so you're not alone. hang in there.
Bobby5000
Bobby5000
Agreed you should consider a new job. Consider this approach. Commit to doing as good a job as you can. Make up a list of things at work and things you could improve. Now you're done. Deal with your list once or twice a week and that's it. Eliminate the pondering over things that went wrong, worrying, self-deprecation. Try to limit the worrying and stress.

Again, 1/2 a week you will work on self-improvement but the rest of the time try to do your job without worry.

I have a family member who worked in a high-pressure job but is one of the calmest men I know. If a problem arose, and he would get called for emergencies, he would listen and try to solve the problem.