*hugs*

taking care of a loved one who cant take care of themselves is very draining... ive been doing it for years and i know how hard it can be

that comment from your husband was just plain mean tho.... i hope he didnt mean it

im not really sure what else to say except...

*hugs* again

I'm sorry your husband said something so cruel. There is so much more to beauty than a little bit of weight. I commend you for taking care of your dad. Focus on what you are doing well and be gentle with yourself. I'm sure your husband will come around. In the meantime, we are here for you. Don't do anything rash!

Whats with the weight remark? not nice at all...and taking care of an elderly parent is not easy and often brings on sadness, I know from experience....Know that you can do this, after all, you are a wonderful person and obviously care a lot for people in general..That is a wonderful trait and be proud of yourself for it!! I'm sure everything will fall into place given time...ask your husband to please be patient...men sometimes make the most horrible comments at such the wrong time...maybe his is meaning to take care of yourself too!!

Was your husband always this cruel or was this something out of the blue? You may want to think back to his past behavior and if he was always like this then it is for the best that you not have him weighing you down with one more person to take care of. Then you can just focus on your dad and yourself. If he was always kind and helpful and this was the first time he said something like that, maybe you can talk it through with a counselor (there are services out there for caregivers and their families--please seek them out, you feel better just having the extra support.) I know you may hear knee jerk responses to leave him, but I would think about the past and if that is what you both really want to do. You don't want to do anything rash. I have come to realize that sometimes it is the people who love us the most who often make the most hurtful (perhaps not on purpose) comments because they care and want to be honest. My family has always been somewhat brutally honest with me when I started to gain weight or seemed like I wasn't taking care of myself (not just physically but also mentally--other people are always the ones who notice before we do if we seem stressed or out of sorts). He's a man too, and they are not the best at expressing themselves--they can be jerks without meaning to. Any way, sorry for the longwinded anwser but I hope you do seek some solace here and know that you are a beautiful person.

WER"NT they his PARENT"s TOO !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
What a DUMD"ASS forgive my french !
Give me a break , what planet is this guy living on.

NUFF SAID, YEAH!!

Who you are is not defined by your weight. Bless you for taking care of Dad..takes a special person to do that. Maybe, are you better off without him if he is going to be that way? Hugs to you and I am here if you need to talk.

Flower....I am so sorry for the loss of your mom and also for what your dad is going through right now. That's a lot to carry on your shoulders. If your meds are helping...yes, please stay on them.

Regarding your husband - His comment was cruel and selfish and he needs a reality check. Even if you have put on a few pounds - so what? Meds can do that. Stress can do that as well. I hope by now he has apolgized for such an unfortunate comment. If not - stand strong...don't let him talk to you like that.

Hang in there and worse comes to worse tell your hubby a chick from the US of A will come a knockin if he doesn't get his shilt straight. ( : I am kidding...but I hope you get where I am coming from.

Take care ((hugs))

Well, you certainly did not need that comment from your husband. How insenstive and cruel! He needs to support you while you are caring for your dad. I certainly hope he comforted you when your mum died.

You cannot control what your husband does, but the last thing you need to do right now is coddle him, You need to take good care of yourself so you have the energy to take care of your dad.

When you marry someone, you do so because you love the person inside, and not for their physical appearance. If you do decide to take off the weight, do it for yourself, not your husband. Again, keeping the health, not the appearance aspect in mind. Perhaps you can get some nutrition counseling to find out how to nourish yourself in order to feel better physically and emotionally. A little physical activity, even a brisk walk, will give your mind a rest while being good for your body.

Hugs and support to you, flowerA. You deserve love and praise for your caring spirit. It is okay, even good to cry. But I hope that your tears will someday be replaced with joy.