Hey, Blue, it's good to hear you're involved in some positive steps to getting well :) As someone with a degree in psych and a personal participant in therapy for over ten years (mostly with the same person, but, during financial duress, three or four others very briefly, too), I can say that a lot of the times, what you get out of therapy is half what you put in, one quarter your relationship with the therapist, and one quarter who the therapist is and what her/his philosophical approach is.

Of course, I can't say for sure, not knowing your therapist, but there are some schools of psychology that strongly believe the therapist should serve only as a listening tool and a mirror for their client, adding nothing to the discussion that the client doesn't introduce themselves. Personally, I find this is very rarely useful for people suffering from depression. Of course the therapist means well, but the empirical evidence is undeniable: CBT, or cognitive behavioral therapy, is far and away the most helpful for those with depression. For example, the primary therapist I've seen over the years has issued me workbooks with reflective, informative, and instructive sections, like this:

http://www.amazon.com/Anxiety-Phobia-Workbook-Edmund-Bourne/dp/1572248912/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1368666912&sr=1-1&keywords=anxiety+workbook

Although I had the depression version, which I can't currently locate on Amazon.com.

Since you're genuinely participating and being open, maybe it *is* the therapist--not something she's doing "wrong," per se, but maybe something that she's simply not doing. You could bring this up to her--depending on the reason she doesn't seem to give a lot of direction/input/feedback, that could change things up a bit. But also feel free to ask to see someone else. Sometimes, through no fault of anyone's, a therapist-patient match just doesn't play out in a way that is most beneficial for the patient. You do what you need to do to best take care of yourself :)

*Hugs* Hope this helps.

ASK for solutions. It's your money, put her to work. Don't let your therapist just sit there and knod their head. That's just laziness on their part. You need to voice this to your therapist. They work for you. Maybe, once you speak about your needs, your therapist will change their method. Tell her your ideas of what you expected just like you told us.

My therapist goes in the direction I send her, if need be. That's what makes her so great.

I had a therapist that thought it would be cool to talk about his family to me because I was in the same profession as his daughter. What he failed to do was talk about me. Then he would have found out that my profession and people in it made me extremely uncomfortable. I was there to get well, not be social.

I just started therapy with a psychologist. I have only met with him 3 times, but basically he did an overview of all my disorders, symptoms and childhood. We are going to break down each issue one at a time and work through them. What I like is he gives me ideas and different perspective of looking at my issues. And as of this week I now have homework every week. Like this week he wants me to practice breathing exercises to help reduce my anxiety. He is the first therapist that I have found really helpful. He also indicated (which I've been told before) that I will need long term therapy.
I am also starting a CBT course as of tomorrow and when I'm done that I will be returning to DBT and this is on top of my therapist.
If you feel you are not getting anything from your therapist I would try another.